Posted by:
SLDrone
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Date: January 18, 2011 03:15PM
The Solitary Journey
Is it possible to actively dissuade someone of their long held religious beliefs or to entice them uninvited on a road of self discovery? Does it matter or is it useful to make public declarations of unbelief? Well I have to admit the idea is fun to muse over. In the end though, I don't think it would be all that influential. Why? Because the road out of Mormonism is one traveled alone.
Several years ago I compiled a list of "smoking guns" as I called them. These were the issues that are objective, the issues that are not open to interpretation, they just are what they are. While historians argue over what Joseph Smith's mind set was, or what source documents he may have possibly used, they often differ in opinion. These issues then are subjective and open to interpretation. The FARMS apology may be as valid as the historians assertions. I find those issues interesting, but I do not consider them to be "smoking guns". The objective issues in my mind are things like: Kinderhook (a small one), Book of Abraham, mDNA and the Lamanites, archeology and the Book of Mormon (i.e. Ferguson), the Adam God Theory, the varying versions of the first vision, etc. There are others, but these stand out to me as objective views of truth and lies.
My initial thought was that any faithful Latter-day Saint, when approached with these objective facts, would certainly see the logic of these proofs and the invalidity of the Church's claims.
I have since changed my view for a couple of reasons. First, and I say this knowing you are my friends, we have no right to destroy someone's faith. As a believing member of the Church I was happy. There are days I would that my naive faith had remained intact. Yes, I know the truth cannot be denied. Yes, I know the truth makes me free. And yet there are still days when I long for the days of blissful ignorance.
I think back to the day a dozen or so years ago that I first came across the word "Kinderhook". It caught my attention and demanded further review. This was my first issue, although it barely made a dent in my armor of faith. That review led me to believe that perhaps Joseph was not always truthful and it opened the door for me to think of him as fallible, and what a wide door that is. Sometimes though I wish I had never stepped through that door.
Without assigning blame I acknowledge that my disbelief has in some ways harmed me, or more importantly it has harmed those around me. My marriage is not what it was, though my loving wife struggles valiantly to love me and support me while she continues to believe. My children are confused. My neighbors are full of supposition. There are times when I would give a fortune if I could go back to that day I first saw the word Kinderhook, and move on without a second thought.
Many of those whose faith we might seek to destroy are happy. Is it our place to take Santa Clause away from them? I've come to believe it is not. Second, I believe that almost all attempts to attack faith with smoking guns will fail. I say this having tried.
One day a few years ago I was approached by a gentleman in my office who noticed I did not "seem myself". He was concerned. This man who has since passed away was what most would call a "jack Mormon". Although he grew up in a semi active family, he rarely attended church, a special event attender. He smoked, drank occasionally, and would rather fly fish on Sunday than any other activity. Well, I thought this will be my first liberated soul. I began to explain to him that I had lost my faith in the Church and I went over some "smoking gun" issues with him. I was dumbfounded when after listening to me, he responded by bearing a humble testimony.
"I don't know half what you know about the gospel and Joseph Smith", he said, "but I know the Church is true and I will be praying for you to find your faith".
Truly faithful Latter-day Saints are almost oblivious to the truth. They are almost bullet proof, even to the smoking gun. I've tried since, and with small variation the results have been the same. The result of attempts to pry them away from their belief will most likely be a loss of association.
This road we travel, this journey we are taking, is a solitary journey. We start on the adventure alone. If pushed into the adventure, we will reject the call, and why not? Don't we all want to believe in the beautiful concepts and surety of a godly prophet and of Mormon Doctrine? Really, don't we all want to know why we live, and where we will go, and that we can do it with those that mean the most to us? So we begin in this, one of the most meaningful adventures of our lives, alone. Why do we even begin. Because we are called by curiosity, not spoon fed but lured by the discovery of tantalizing truth. Then as we travel further on the path we meet others who started alone also. We seek the association of like minded people. Fellow adventurers on this path out of Mormonism.
The solitary journey is a difficult journey, and feeling alone and even lost is part of it. One finds himself in the midst of changing the maps, altering paradigms that have guided one’s life. Ultimately the peace we look for will only be found when we let go of the dogma that has controlled us thus far. When we realize there are very few absolutes, that others may think differently and act differently than us, and when we discover that differences are not only acceptable, but that they are the very essence of individuality and growth, then we will be well down the path.
It is there, on the path that leads to non judgmental acceptance, a healthy curiosity about others and their philosophies, intrigue rather than fear of differences and the unknown; that we will find fellow travelers at our side, supporting each other, encouraging each other. This is the path to enlightenment. It is the path we follow to find happiness in knowledge of truth that we once held only in faith of fantasy.
Edited 1 time(s). Last edit at 01/18/2011 03:16PM by SLDrone.