Posted by:
Joy
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Date: June 17, 2013 03:08PM
I can empathize with the anger. My anger knew no bounds. I was often awake at 3:00, and shaking with fury. I had reasons I won't go into, such as extreme physical abuse from my temple spouse, which the Mormons denied, excused, and even condoned. According to D & C 132, I was his property, and he could do anything he wanted to me. I divorced him to save my life, but was never allowed to remarry in the temple, or do get a temple divorce. I tried for many years to get a temple divorce, and the rules kept changing. I finally found out that his GA relative had been stopping me. Is this God's church? My ex has married a total of three women in the temple--and has beaten them all, and his children as well. He is considered "a member in good standing" and has had high callings. As I went online to review the new temple divorce rules, I stumbled on RFM.
Oh, the anger and bitter tears, with each new horrible lie that I uncovered! On top of the history, was the Mormon abuse my children suffered, at the hands of the priesthood leaders--and all this was OK in the MOrmon cult! Those same leaders were promoted up the ranks to Bishop, SP, mission presidents. UGH! I didn't sleep well for two weeks.
Anger! A wasted childhood in a dysfunctional Mormon family that believed in physical punishment and destructive criticism. A second marriage almost pulled apart by the Mormon cult. Coming very close to alienating my own children by following the rules of Mormon parenthood and forcing my children to go to a church they hated.
My Mormon brother stole money from our inheritance. His son tried to take money from the family business. I sued for what I could get, and sold out my share.
I honestly thought the anger would never end. It went on for several years, but gradually dissipated. I would like to say that I forgave the Mormons, but that is not the case.
I got over the anger by getting Mormonism out of my life.The best thing that could have happened was that our family resigned together. We limited ourselves to a two-page letter, but everything was in there, written and signed.
But there is still the residual anger, when Mormons continue to act rude. I had new anger to deal with, with Prop 8, the destruction of downtown Salt Lake City (a city I had loved), the expenses of the City Creek Mall, GBH's new lies, the Mormons continuing to harass my children to return to the cult, Missionaries knocking on our door, Mormons threatening me with destruction and telling me to read the BOM (already read it 7 times). Mormon neighbors who used to be my "friends", whose children played at my house, to whom I brought dinners when they were sick--now scowl and look the other way, as though I didn't exist. At first it made me cry, but now it makes me angry.
The only way for me to avoid anger is to avoid Mormons altogether. Honestly, I tried to keep Mormon friendships and to get along nicely, but that did not work. Now, I shop at different stores, see only non-Mormon friends, spend more time with my children, and am very happy at my Mormon-free workplace (we keep it that way, though we can't admit it). I have stopped going to family reunions and weddings, and no one cares.
Most of all, finally, I don't care. I'm the one shunning the Mormons and their silly ideas and busywork, gossipy, judgmental conversations. I certainly don't miss their racism. These people think women are second-class citizens. Why did we ever want to hang out with people like that?
Is "dislike" the same as hatred? Is avoidance just another manifest of anger? I don't think so.
You will recover.