Date: October 05, 2010 11:54PM
First, you have the right to live by your mind, judgments, and sense (i.e., gut-level feeling) of what's right for you, whether your mother or anybody else agrees with you or not.
Your mother's attack was typically LDS: irrational and immaturely defensive. Pathetic, really. A reasonable child would have behaved better. It's the psychological result of years (decades!) of Mormon 'brainwashing.' Latter-day Saints are 'programmed' by cultic Mormonism to mentally flee from, ignore, trivialize, and condemn facts that don't support 'true' church doctrines and teachings. The standard - and dysfunctional and immature - reaction of 'Mo-bots' is to get irrationally angry, try to make the rational-thinker (you, in this case) feel 'bad' for what you said (the truth), and leave the conversation with their Morg 'brainwashing' intact.
For info. about how cultic Mo-ism 'programs' people, go to http://members.shaw.ca/blair_watson/
I strongly suggest that you don't waste any more time with your mother trying to get her to understand why you've chosen to cease participating in cultic Mormonism. Clearly, she won't open her mind. Be firm in your decision to not attend church or participate in any Mormon function (why waste your time/life?). You're in charge of your life, not her or anyone else.
Her comment that you're supposedly "too scared" to accept the 'truth' is beyond laughable! What 'truth' would that be? The conflicting versions of Joseph Smith's so-called 'First Vision'? (ref. http://www.irr.org/mit/first-vision/fvision-accounts.html
The 'true' BoM, the book that science has proven to be a work of fiction? See:
Losing a Lost Tribe: Native Americans, DNA, and the Mormon Church (by genetic researcher Dr. Simon Southerton, a former LDS bishop): http://www.amazon.com/Losing-Lost-Tribe-Native-Americans/dp/1560851813
"DNA vs. The Book of Mormon" (ref. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=svfxSscxh8o
Book of Mormon Tories (plagarisms in the BoM involving two American history books, one published in 1789 and the other in 1805, that were available to Joseph Smith): http://www.postmormon.org/exp_e/index.php/magazine/pmm_article_full_text/211
Digital photograph of the title page of the 1830 edition of the Book of Mormon that shows that Joseph Smith was the author and proprietor (he claimed he was the 'translator' of the ancient gold plates): http://www.inephi.com/1.htm
Also, watch "The Lost Book of Abraham" (more proof that Joseph Smith (JS) lied about his 'translation' ability): http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hcyzkd_m6KE
How 'true' can Mormonism be when the chronically dishonest LDS Church won't teach its members and potential converts the historical fact (truth) that JS made other men's wives, single women, and teenage girls young enough to be his daughters his plural wives?! (Ref. http://www.wivesofjosephsmith.org/
Is your mother such a lover of truth that she's willing to read the 'faith-disrupting' description of JS using his hat and a rock that he believed possessed a supernatural power (a 'seer' stone!) to 'translate' the BoM that was in the Ensign Magazine 17 years ago?! Here's the quote:
"Joseph Smith would put the seer stone into a hat, and put his face in the hat, drawing it closely around his face to exclude the light; and in the darkness the spiritual light would shine. A piece of something resembling parchment would appear, and on that appeared the writing. One character at a time would appear, and under it was the interpretation in English. Brother Joseph would read off the English to Oliver Cowdery, who was his principal scribe, and when it was written down and repeated to Brother Joseph to see if it was correct, then it would disappear, and another character with the interpretation would appear. Thus the Book of Mormon was translated by the gift and power of God, and not by any power of man."
It comes from an article by Mormon Apostle Russell Nelson, "A Treasured Testament", that was published in the July 1993 Ensign (use the Search function at www.lds.org to find it and show it to your mother).
If you want to copy and keep a TON of 'faith-disrupting' facts, search for posts done by me on this board with links. You never know if your mother will - at some point - start having doubts about Mormonism. With the info., you'll be ready to help her.
You don't have to go on the offensive and attack your mother's irrational, emotion-driven 'faith' in Mormonism, but likewise you don't have to tolerate ANY crap from her - no guilt-trips, no attempts to make you feel fearful about what will happen to you if you leave the Morg - you're not obliged to tolerate ANY Mormon nonsense.
You'll find over time that as you define boundaries with your mother by making it clear to her what you will and will not tolerate in terms of her behaviour, you'll 're-educate' her about how to interact with you. Never forget: We teach people how to treat us. You have the right to be treated decently. The more you stand up for yourself, the more you'll find that any trouble you've had with conflict in terms of fear, anxiety, etc. will decrease and eventually disappear. You will have completely 're-programmed' and healed yourself from the cultic effects of Mormonism.
I promise you that such a transformation IS possible because I've done it as have 10's if not 100's of 1,000's of former Mormons.
Continue to be authentic/true to yourself whether my mother or anybody else likes it or not. You have the rest of your life to enjoy free from cultic Mormonism!