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Posted by: Kiwi ex mormon ( )
Date: January 12, 2015 05:45AM

Well, I was born into the church by a stupid mistake that my selfish dad has made when he was 17 y.o by breaking the "chasity law". The branch president (at that time) just happened to be my grandfather, who said that my parents should get married. Neither of them were ready. My dad was physically abusive towards me, and both physically/emotionally abusive towards my mother. Which it got to the point where they eventually got a divorce, and my Dad excommunicated for cheating on my mother.

My mum has left the church, my grandmother (mum's side) has gotten her name removed due to false church information. I was forced to travel kilometres with my dad, away from mum, just because he wanted power and control, and convenient enough, the temple was close by. My dad re-married and eventually had his membership (incl) temple blessings restored.

Anyway, I was going to church, did the youth program, until I met a girl...sounds dodgy since I was 16, she was 14. But hey all we did was kissed.....well perhaps kissed behind the sacrament table....I left when I was 17 because I couldn't get on well with anybody else, so I left.

It made me having to catch up on drinking parties when I was in my 20s, while everybody else experienced it during their teens. I did a bit of weed here and there. Had a girlfiend of 6 years, but broke up, move countries and then I got caught with weed in that country.

So I had to move back home with my Dad. I gave the church a crack believing it was true. But what I found is I useless in the ward. I didn't get a calling (mind you, I didn't want to teach kids/youth), I just want to play around with sound of IT stuff, considering I am specialised in Audio and Im a musician with a background in IT. I did little DJ'ing but many other DJ's are more like "human jukeboxes" rather than professional DJ's that you hear at a night club. If I dj, they want to see my playlist.....

They put me with the YSA, I was 29 and many YSA's has a lack of social skills, so they didn't want to talk to me, or too shy or whatever. It was even harder joining with the 31+ singles, although many of them love to have me for company. Certain stake presidents, etc are very strict to the age bracket when it comes to activities, which rarely happens. So i started ward hopping, for the purpose of meeting people, making contacts for work or chilling out, however certain aggressive mormons didn't like that either. Which I don't understand considering I a full tithe payer to the corporation.

Also many members became judgmental when it comes to sitting next to women in a typical ward sacrament...I go to gym and do classes with the ladies = OK. Do that at church = NO! I have more female friends than male friends, even married women still hang out with me. I even live with a single women for the past 7 months. LDS hates that.

Another problem with living situation, I must flat with males...Well I done that, but 1 month, I wasn't happy and he wasn't nice at all. But cheap accommodation though. He had mental problems, he even handed in his rental notice without notifying me, so I was evicted. The LDS, including my DAD, never helped me at all, so I am not on talking terms with my family. One thing is my flatmate is not religious, yet she is way nicer..Deserves to go to heaven.

Then there is this estrange friend of mine who is a convert (she will kill me, if she reads it), she put me in the friendzoned though. She thought I had the "spirit" when I was just making facts up about the church and having high social status (thats from ward hopping), she even thought I served a mission. Yet I can sell perfume to women and I have no clue what the product is. Anyway she had a hard life...so she turned to "God" for help....Rather than me writing about someone else without permission...Im just going to say this....I left the church and I dont appreciate being pressured to attend her ward, just for members to see the progress of me losing 50Kgs over 2014 and to see whether other members can see my progress or they judge me because I go drinking with my female gym buddies.

LDS women I dated always pressure me into going to church and wearing my ugly magic underwear, Im not sure if that friend of mine wanted to annoy me, or she has fallen in love with me, considering I told her that I have handed in my name removal notice, and she knows I and bitter towards the church. Either way, my life has been peaceful without her, and I sent a warning shot at her via facebook password hacking.

So thats my ugly story about the LDS. I don't care about facts or fiction, Im just a social butterfly.

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