These two nightmares you have are actually common, I’ve had both as well, except in the second one I don’t have a gun (I’m British). Apparently the one with the airport or travelling, forgetting passport, etc, is a sign that a person is frustrated and feeling trapped (makes sense). Second one I don’t know, but with me the people get in, and then I literally experience sleep paralysis and
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I didn’t serve a mission (female, adult convert and a mother) but this topic caught my interest because even ten years after resigning I have nightmares about being mormon. They’re not very frequent but it tends to be the similar dream each time. For some reason I decide to go back to church, and unlike in real life, I fit in so well no one knows I’m an ex-Mormon, except the bishop. I start
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I had two relationships with narcissists and I nearly had a breakdown afterwards; it was a wake up call and in some ways I wish I hadn’t been forced to take that red pill. I started to realise just how many narcissistic people were and had been in my life. I’d already left the church years before and had no contact with anyone anymore but it was only then, only after these relationships that
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I find this kind of behaviour super confusing. She wants to spend thanksgiving with you, but won’t reply to your emails? Personally, if it were me, I’d not be accommodating and I’d go one of two ways instead. First, I’d phone her up and talk to her; literally take the moral high ground and be super friendly and nice; ignore her efforts to ignore you and insist on being friendly and talki
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This isn’t suitable for everyone. Lots of people are gluten intolerant plus a diet high in carbs is to be avoided as equally as the Atkins diet. Sometimes it’s not what we eat that determines weight; it’s how much! I’ve been an ideal weight and been unhealthy at times due to eating an unbalanced diet and not enough. I was shocked to discover how much protein I needed based on the amount o
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I was a vegetarian as a teenager. It made me ill. That’s not to say it has to, but finding all the protein and iron I missed from meat and poultry would have been very time consuming. I’ve tried it since and it required eating a LOT of beans which wasn’t fun. Besides I love meat. It tastes great and so makes me feel happy. Plus it stops me getting anaemic once a month. I think it’s
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n/t
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Whoa whoa whoa!!? How is it that we don’t have a mass exodus of TBM men if they know that they’re gonna lose ‘it’? Where /when did the profit say this? How will the Mormon gods procreste without their genitalia??
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Looking back on it, temple square in SLC felt creepy to me; or maybe it was the fact I felt nothing that gave me the creeps? I also had bad feelings at Institute evenings in the stake centre, and in the mission home in Scotland with my brother. I didn’t notice it anywhere else, which is weird.
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I always found it weird that everyone had to sustain new callings in sacrament meeting. If everyone has to agree then what is the point? Did anyone ever see a person raising their hand to object? As a new member I was on the look out for this, only to eventually realise this was not the done thing. But I’d love to hear if this has ever happened. I always taught primary, the thing I was
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I’ve never liked Halloween. I stay in and I don’t answer the door.
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As a new person to this forum, I do not understand anything in this post?!
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I think this is a pertinent question for someone leaving mormonism. In the mormon church my boundaries and my privacy were always being violated. I ended up avoiding phone calls; but I thought, there has to be a better way. It took years to figure it all out. It’s more natural for me to think “I don’t have to answer that” and “I don’t have to do that” without feeling a great deal of
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I am an introvert who needs a lot of alone time in order to function. No one has the right to insist you do otherwise. I hope you can find a way to assert yourself so that you don’t miss out on the things you are also entitled to, as much as anyone else. I’ve also been judged and misunderstood for the way I am. I went back to university at the age of 38 and was surrounded by outgoing girls in
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“I thought, well, this must be similar to having an afternoon with EoD” LOL Great post. I remember saying similar things when I was a mormon and hearing others say “I would be nothing without the church”. We meant it. What this also refers to is feeling saved, rather than just having a purpose. That’s how worthless the mormon church made me feel; then it made me feel awesome b
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I used to think I could tell how good or evil a person was by looking into their eyes. It’s like I could see their spirit of something. I think this is called the gift of discerning spirits. A lot of this was probably my own brainwashed arrogance. However, I tend to still get feelings about people, sometimes like a gut feeling when something isn’t right. I don’t think it’s a spiritual gif
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A boundary is simply a “no”. Even without using the word you can choose not to tolerate certain things. All of this is personal, and you need to be clear on what you won’t put up with. Also remember that trust is earned, and not a given. Be aware that people who don’t take no for an answer are not respecting your boundaries; it’s when people keep doing this that you need to cut them out
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It’s evil because you have to pay it to get into heaven. There’s a lot of manipulation that goes on too if you don’t pay it. All of this is spiritual abuse as well as financial abuse.
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I’ve realised a lot of the confusing behaviour I’ve experienced is due to the opposing beliefs mormons hold: Love others and bring them into the fold; avoid apostates and anything anti mormon. The religion contradicts itself a lot. Which means mormons do as well. One minute I’m being sincerely told that I’m loved, the next I’m ignored. It’s crazy making. Of course some mormons tend
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What you say about being introverted rang a bell without me. I’m the same and I can be quiet whether happy or sad. My mormon relatives picked on that, accusing me of being rude when I was going through a difficult time; and generally now I think they still take it as a sign that I’m unhappy. It’s quite disconcerting feeling my family don’t expect anything good from me. I have to use that
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Maybe because Cathy is right here and we are offering her support?
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Didn’t serve a mission but I was a convert and a couple of years ago I reached out to the missionary who baptised me, I saw him on LinkedIn. He asked me to explain what had made me leave, saying he was very interested and it might help him understand why others he knew had done the same. So I did just that. He didn’t respond to anything I said, other than he hoped we could remain on good t
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I once dated a guy who didn’t believe and we met when he was 23. Yet he’d served a mission. He had no struggles going inactive, he thought they whole thing was ridiculous. He did his mission where he learnt to speak Russian, then used this to become an intelligence officer for the US navy. Had an amazing career. I suspect he did the mission for what he got out of it. No guilt, no worrying ove
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Do your non/ex mormon children know this is happening? What is their relationship like with your youngest son? I only ask because one consolation for me is my daughter waking up to what is going on in our family. It doesn’t change anything, but it was quite validating and is a silver lining in the cloud. There’s nothing you can do. I’ve come to the same conclusion. Except to live my l
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I thought Losing my Religion was about losing faith and I stopped listening to it as a mormon. Turns out it’s actually a beautiful song about unrequited love. This is an example how as a mormon I would instantly sweep things away, out of mind and out of sight, if I thought they threatened my faith. Ridiculous and you miss out on so much.
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I think mormons can have different hang ups about different things. On the rare occasion I have used a swear word, my brother has found it amusing. I think it’s because he never hears it anywhere else. In mormon terms they’re outwardly quite tolerant. Of course, I don’t really know for sure what they really think. I bet we’d get on fine and things would be outwardly pleasant and all fine
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That’s the thing: my brother and SIL are really nice too. But no, not trustworthy it feels. But then I’m on here talking about them. You know, it crossed my mind recently that they might have checked out this page and seen my posts. If they ever do come here they will instantly recognise me. Omg. What should I do? (sorry to hack your thread)
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Pretty sure I walked around in my garments in front of my daughter when she was growing up. If it was hot, then another layer was too much. No need for pyjamas. No need to put sweatpants on. Lol (cringe).
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Wow; I live in social housing and even we get CO detectors. Its the law.
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I’m very sorry for what you’ve been through. What you said about nothing makes death less sad, is so true. When my dad died, it didn’t comfort me that much that I believed he was in heaven. He was still gone. My first step towards the mormon exit was when members I knew who I thought were my friends, basically told me it was all ok because he was now in a better place. I’ve seen mormons
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