One thing you need to remember, this is my journey and not yours. Was I expecting some sort of miraculous answer from him? Of course not. Was he capable of giving more in depth answers similar to what we might find online? I'm sure he could have, but I purposely didn't want to go there otherwise it would have just have been a live session of mormon essays. So what was my purpose? As I sta
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A few weeks back I posted asking for advice regarding an upcoming meeting I was to have with a GA regarding my concerns with the church. Here is a recap of the meeting. I sat facing the GA, no desk between us, the SP was off to the side. The meeting lasted almost an hour. The first 20 or so minutes the conversation was 50/50 while the remainder was almost 100% GA doing the talking. The SP rem
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Thanks for that pep talk azsteve! I think I needed to hear that if for no other reason than to give me courage to stand up to my newfound conviction or should I say lack of conviction. In the same way it took lots of courage to being a Mormon out in the world, it will take a similar courage to being a disbeliever and potential apostate in front of a GA and SP. I have to say the board did not
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Wow when you mentioned Jordan Peterson, that was so cool because I literally discovered him for the first time on YouTube yesterday. His way of thinking resonates with me. And the clip of him on the Bill Maher show was classic. You're right, too many of us just don't want to rock the boat, thus not living a life of integrity. My integrity does not permit me to continue on as I have in the past
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Absolutely agree with not confessing sins of any kind otherwise THAT will always be the reason why you left. They can't understand that a person commits a few "sins" because he or she no longer considers them to be sins.
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First off thanks for your replies. The leader interviewing me was from the stake presidency and apparently when a GA comes into town he sets some time aside to meet with members at the stake presidents discretion, quite often these may be members who are ill or otherwise in need of support. In retrospect perhaps I should have just declined the meeting, but at this point I will go as it will b
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Hi all, I need some advice. I’ve been a member my whole life and still attend church every week although I currently have no calling and no longer pay tithing. Besides the bishop and stake presidency, most members probably think I am still all in. Recently I had an interview with a church leader wanting to extend a calling. I refused and explained why. I basically said that I lost faith in
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logan Wrote: ------------------------------------------------------- > I could never understand how some say the church > ruined their lives and wasted so many years of > their life. Ok that is all fine, you stopped > believing in something you probably didnt know > much about anyway, ok so what? At the same time > you say it ruined your life, you mention all the > f
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Beautifully written, very simple concept and yet it strikes to the very core of what makes us human. You so eloquently expressed in a few lines of your recount of a simple everyday experience what it is to be a warm loving joyful human being. Just for fun I thought of how this experience might unfold for a TBM......... ...."The other day I was cooking for a big group--the five of us p
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Haha moving...thats sort of a running joke I have with my wife...lets just move! My wife does have a good network of friends outside the church thankfully. But that doesn't elimnate the all encompasing influence the church has on almost every aspect of our lives. I think my first step will be to expose her to some of the things I found regarding the church, here a little and there a little an
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Wow a bit overwhelmed by the rapid responses and kind comments. Thank you! You should all join my ward, we could use people like you...oh forgot...most of you already resigned, lol. Yeah I need to continue talking with my wife..get in deeper, seems to be something I avoid. Btw, we are close, divorce will not happen. She isnt super strict, (we have had coffee and some wine on vacations) but
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I'm in Canada. Don't want to get much more specific for now.
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I've been visiting this site for years but up to now have never posted. I can relate to many of the experiences shared here and it has been very helpful in understanding the difficulty for those leaving the church. Briefly my story. I was raised in the church and I raised all my kids in the church as well. I'm your typical TBM family. I'm still active but havent paid titihing in two years.
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