Rape to me is next to murder. My ex husband did it to me while we were still married but I knew he was high on meth and when I refused him...well. it was one of the most traumatizing experiences of my life, killed parts of my spirit I don’t think I’ll ever get back, and was even more traumatic when people basically said it wasn’t rape because he was my spouse. Well, I was screaming no and h
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They didn’t ask me for my birth certificate when I was baptized but I was 25 at the time.
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My friend had sex with her now husband before marriage and before his divorce was finalized. They were both excommunicated. They married civilly and I attended the wedding. I didn’t find it odd at the time because I knew both their previous sealings hadn’t been cancelled yet. I did however find it odd she wasn’t wearing her garments but she claimed that the dress showed her garments and the
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Honestly, I can’t remember the website but I learned exactly how to resign where I wouldn’t be given any problems from a website back in 2012. My resignation was so precise, I received absolutely no push back. One of the key things to say is effective immediately, once you make that statement, you’re out and can’t be put under “church discipline” also as a back to practicing Catholic
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In my area the members were largely made up of converts though some were Born under the Covenant as they would say. If you were a convert to Mormonism, what pulled you in to be baptized and then what pulled you out?
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I had to close my eyes a minute right after getting to the part of her pantyhose being the wrong color.
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I struggle with this question too. I can’t understand how my highly intelligent friend can just accept all of it with a smile and a nod. Any of my friends really who are still TBM. I feel like there has to be a moment where you go hmmm... I mean maybe it’s the comfort of it all so they write it off as a lack of faith if they question or maybe they write it off as any questions they have are
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I resigned but am still one of their hopefuls mainly because I believe “love thy neighbor” applies to even those you disagree with. However, I had gone a year without any contact. I think they believe if I just gain that solid testimony of the BOM I will return, be rebaptized, and be “golden”. Long story short, two kindhearted Elders came to my home and we had a heartfelt discussion in my
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I do wonder why some are left alone for years and others are sought after. Maybe they can’t locate some.
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Do missionaries really seek out people who are inactive or who have left TSCC on a whim or is it prompted by the Bishop or someone else in TSCC?
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Thank you for the replies. First off, Jordan I really could give two sh**ts if you think I'm a "gold digger" or not. For one, you know what they say about deflection and two I owe you no explanation for making decisions for my own inner peace and well being. You sound like a Narc yourself with all the guilt tripping which is what the narc uses to keep the victim in their grasp. I never
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I broke up with him and he said he never wanted to hear from me again... then tried to get one of my best friends to meet him at her house to give her the spare key he had taken. He told her not to tell me anything just to return it to me for him. He told her He didn’t want her “caught in the crosshairs of my paranoia”. I messaged him and told him, it was cute he thought my best friend woul
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Claro que sí. Paso por Paso.
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I’m not saying everyone who has fallen in love quickly is a narcissist. I fell head over heels in love with “my missionary” and at first sight time stopped. However, I waited a year before professing my love in a love letter. Things didn’t work out due to me leaving the faith... but he told me he still loved me right before he got married. So, yes, it can be different for everyone but mos
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Muchas Gracias por tus palabras. Yo pienso que, yo necesito más tiempo para sanar. Yo no quiero tener prisa y cometer el mismo error.
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Clearly some of you never have dealt with narcissists or c-ptsd but thank you for the advice to all of you. I have no apologies however for not being able to fall head over heels in love within a two month span. This isn’t Hollywood. However, I will discuss it with my therapist. Thank you for listening and especially thank you to those who did not invalidate me but we’re honest and some even
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Oh, but I look nothing like his ex and she died of cancer and it took her rather quickly because it had already progressed by the time they found it. Apparently, it was a type of cancer that had something to do with her genetics and she was more prone to get it. On paper he seems perfect. Involved in helping teach the youth group at church, perfectly clean background check. Taught elementary scho
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I ran a background check and it came up clean... but I still have these feelings. My narcissistic ex however did have a record.
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I’ve only seen her old FB page and she did indeed die. However, he is from California and moved where I am a little over a year ago. Her ashes are in California with her parents.
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One major thing that is causing me qualms especially, is the “I love you” and “you’re my soulmate” two months in the relationship. Having been with a narcissist before, I understand that narcissists try to move things quickly to lock you down and then start the devaluation phase. He even mentioned moving in when my ex showed up one night. Trying to protect me? Maybe. However trying to m
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So, I was abused in my previous marriage. Long story short, he was a narcissist and I civilly divorced him and annulled the marriage through the Catholic Church. I stayed single a year and a half and started dating again. I went a couple of dates with a dud. Then I started dating the guy I am dating now consistently. He is also Catholic, we discussed my past history in the LDS faith before going
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Before I left TSCC, I was fascinated by family history. I wasn’t fascinated in it for Temple work, but simply because I truly enjoy learning about my ancestors and where I come from. I had a distant cousin who had our family tree expansively done, it was impressive. I enjoyed seeing ancestry I didn’t know about until then. However, now that I have left TSCC, I don’t have access to these rec
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Now, we do wear mantillas or lace type veils as a sign of reverence to the presence of Christ. Mantillas have become optional but I do like to wear mine. It is very different from a hijab though. I went to Italy in 2007 and always made sure my shoulders were covered and my skirts came down to my knee but like I said what is considered modest can vary according to culture. Even a parish made of pr
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I am Catholic. No particular dress code except to consider where you are, so dress respectfully. You don’t have to be dressed up if you don’t want to. Some do, some don’t. In the US showing your shoulders is ok but it’s important to dress in a way that doesn’t show off too much skin. For example as a lady I wouldn’t wear a dress that would show my rear when I kneel or have my boobs ha
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So, I got wind of the fact that there have been changes to Temple Wedding policies and how couples married outside the Temple first no longer have to wait a year to get sealed. I have one thing to say about that. It’s about damn time!
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Those darn minions! :-p I didn’t notice at all. Darn. Welcome intruder. Haha.
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I’ve seen really elaborate weddings where the couple is sealed in the Temple and those who can’t go in, wait outside and all cheer when the couple comes out. A reception follows with cake, dancing, food, like it’s really a jam up party without the alcohol of course. Some even have a little ring ceremony because you can’t exchange rings in the Temple. Some are outside, others in a receptio
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I do. :-) I tried to put on that fake smile and obey but it just wasn’t me. I fixed my typos that I made since I had fingers of lightening while typing it, all in my feels. I constantly make typos on here when I post from my phone. :-/ I do wish I could send it to him. It might cause an uproar though. :-) I am talking to someone now, who is also Catholic. I was in an abusive marriage in my past
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Nothing irked me more than no other testimony being valid than the Mormon testimony. Anyone else’s experiences were just evidence they weren’t faithful enough, praying enough, serving enough, or reading the scriptures with an open heart, not that perhaps the church was full of crap. An inactive Mormon sealed in the Temple is better off to them than a faithful Catholic, Protestant, or anyone e
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Of course it didn’t. :) Also, the explanation I was always given was that if a sibling or other family member had a different tribe from you, it’s because either A. We all basically have multiple heritages in us anyway and that particular tribe was the strongest in you or B. You were adopted into the tribe according to the qualties of your spirit so you can have a different tribe from a fami
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