Thanks for the feedback. I try to be a good and kind person, but my social skills are not my best quality. :-O I am especially bad at small talk. I'm going to look up and practice the social skill of changing subjects. Good point! And... that will probably be beneficial for me in other areas of my life as well.
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Thanks for your feedback. I'm going to practice a generic response.
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I'm glad to hear that I am not alone. After seeing your comment, I realize that I need to have more conversations with my spouse about shared responses and shared responsibility. My husband is super, super, super passive. He is able to sit there and not show any external reactions to things -- even though he says he is stressed inside. He is like a stone during stressful situations. I am t
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Thank you... I can see that some of the problem is that I'm in a reactive mode when the person is just trying to connect.
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My husband and I live in a part of the country where there is not a large Mormon presence. People generally do not understand what Mormonism is, and will often think it is the FLDS. He never tells anyone that his family is Mormon or that he used to be a Mormon. I don't tell anyone either. Even my/our closest friends do not know. His family has never had a relationship with me because they
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I'm happy for you that you're able to reach out on this board. You are not alone.
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Congratulations!
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It is such a gift to not be chained to nostalgia of a past that never really existed in the first place. Thanks for sharing! Happy Holidays!
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Congratulations!
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Merry Christmas!
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donbagley I wish you the safe and relaxing and enriching holiday that you deserve! Thanks for sharing and for also being a witness to the experiences of others.
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I agree... This site provides an amazing space for people. I'm glad that you have found your way towards the life you want and deserve!
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It is very difficult to feel alone in the world. I also think that it is hard to make new friends who can understand what you are going through. I'm glad this board is here for you to communicate with others who can relate with your experiences. I was never Mormon. My husband has very little communication with his family, and when he does, it goes very badly. We keep it a secret that his f
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If you have an interest in other cultures and access to a public library, you could read picture books with them about spirituality and faith practices in other cultures. That might answer their questions in a natural way without generating conversations that are more personal. At this age, they are still learning about the world around them, and it's possible that they are not so interested in
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I also cannot understand how people can be so cruel -- especially when they are trying to present themselves as moral people. This is so sad. My in-laws never spoke to me from the start, so there were never any relationships to lose. However, I do feel a deep sense of loss. I cannot imagine how horrible it must feel to you to be going through this type of treatment at the hands of peopl
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Wait... staying at your place means you are running a hotel for them? Can they be put on a chore schedule? They should be cooking you a meal to show their appreciation. And... at nine days, I would assume they are bringing groceries with them... Mom might need some support. I feel like mother/son relationships can be very complicated -- and also the way the father behaved towards the moth
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I have had people smear my name. I felt like there wasn't anything I could do about it. I decided that people who listen to a hater doing a smear campaign are not very nice themselves.
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Stay overs should always be discussed with everyone in the household ahead of time -- unless it is some sort of crisis (e.g., a fire burned down their house). Some people have prior understandings about what is or is not okay. For example, my husband could bring home anyone for a few days without asking me and it wouldn't bother me as long as the person isn't doing some kind of behavior out of
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ptbarnum Wrote: ------------------------------------------------------- > Please let us know how it goes! My husband had the visit with his sister, and it did not go well. She was acting as an emissary for his family, which wants him to divorce me. (He likes being married to me.) She had not been truthful with him about her intentions for the past three months. It became impossible
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Warrior71783 Wrote: ------------------------------------------------------- > I made it. No family contact. GOOD FOR YOU! I wish I could insert a meme of me cheering for you.
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> Meanwhile child molesting priests still operate > under the umbrella of the Church. Yes... and those molesters are allowed to take and give communion. Very disturbing.
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They are not against population control. For them, the issue is sex without the intention to procreate.
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"Excluding someone from the communion" They don't see a connection between taking communion and going to heaven. The purpose of communion is to be close to (in communion with) Christ. I'm not taking a position, I"m just saying that they believe. In my opinion, they are trying to make her be far from God because they don't agree with her being public about her sexual behavior
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"My question would be, since the marriage was not performed in the church, and therefore not sacramental, why is the church taking any notice of it anyway? Perhaps this is a priest with a vendetta." Their issue is not technically with the marriage, but with the sexual activity. Anyone having sex outside of the sacramental marriage is not supposed to take communion. However, they ar
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I understood cultural marxism to be a derogatory term used to refer to people who have liberal views. I'm not sure if there are people who identify themselves as cultural marxists.
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Thanks for sharing it. I showed it to my husband, and he needed the ideas in the video at that moment too.
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I wasn't sure where to ask this... I found this site several weeks ago. I told my husband about it. Now, we are both on this site. Is it inappropriate for both of us to be on here? Are there people on this site that know each other in person? Thank you.
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I hope you made it through the day yesterday. This is a big deal. If you didn't make it, there will be more opportunities...
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Dear Breeze not logged in, I am so sorry to hear that you are going through all this. I'm so glad that this board is here for people to connect with others who have been through similar things. YOU ARE NOT whining. You are expressing your feelings in a constructive manner. YOU ARE NOT awful. You are reaching out to others and healing from your experiences. Strong and loving people pu
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Lafayette, are you asking about people's opinion of the video, or are you asking about how wide the circle of dysfunctional people was? I am not an ex-mormom, so I can only speak to what I have experienced with my in-laws as my husband left the church. I too felt like I was in the middle of a lake, but maybe there were small islands and inlets where there were no mutants. The more contac
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