Yes my daughter definitely comes first in priority, you're right about that. I see no good in keeping a relationship with him. It is hard though, because my little one is so young she doesn't understand. I think he shows no remorse at this point and doesn't want to hear why anyone is hurting. There are a lot of us kids too, so he would get an earful if we all decided to talk to him about it all.
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*salesman not salmon haha!
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That is such an incredibly hard experience you and your family went through, and I really appreciate you sharing it with me. How awful and so unfair for your cousin to go through that! Poor girl deserved better. The whole "keeping up appearances" is exactly how my dad is too. He still puts on an act like he's this spiritual, successful person. He never wants to talk about anything real.
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Sounds like every person in TSCC haha! They think. Crying = truth
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Thank you Amyjo for sharing! Isn't it sad that some people can be so horrible? It is so hard knowing you've been played your whole life. So many innocent people plus my family have been deeply hurt by his actions. My dad likes to put on this act like he's this sweet innocent spiritual (yet humble) man, and it works on so many! I literally had no idea he could harm a fly until everything came to t
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That my dad was found out to be a fraud. It has been a very interesting recovery for me because not only have I learned about all the lies the church teaches, that my own dad was so good at pretending we're truths, but I also learned that my dad was using the church in his callings (always in leadership) and his work to manipulate and con people. I recently wrote my exit story, and I think I didn
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"You either need to marry him or burn." This was said after confessing I wasn't sexually "clean" to my branch president.
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I went to a handful of different singles wards and hardly ever met any guys who weren't jerks, losers and/or manipulative. Not saying they were all that way, some were genuinely good men. BUT I would say the way men and women are raised in the church sets them up for failure. Especially with the mindset that you get married quickly when you're practically a child still, then you're supposed to ha
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I have a sister who is very similar. Last year she abandoned our little sister on her wedding day for selfish reasons. Before that everyone would cater to her every whim and she always got away with her behavior. Her ditching my little sister was the last straw for me and I chewed her out. She blocked me and everyone but one person in our family from any contact (like she's the victim) I haven't
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Love the sinner not the sin. They act like this is somehow a loving statement, but really it's so judgmental and plain old mean. My husbands best friend is gay and a couple years ago married his boyfriend. We went to be there for him on his big day and were so excited for him, he was finally truly happy (he served the same mission as my husband and then left the church years later to be true to h
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That's so odd because my good friend believes exactly the same thing! She and I stopped going fairly close to each other, but our beliefs are SO different. It makes talking about it really awkward. She thinks that Brigham young black mailed JS and hired the mob to kill him (insert eye roll here)...
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Hello everyone! I have been wanting to share my exit story for months now, so here it goes! I have been coming to this site regularly for the last year for comfort and courage while quitting TSCC. Here's a quick back story. I was raised in TSCC from birth, along with my many many bro's and sisters. Never had money for anything and ate bishop's store house food quite often. For the most part,
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I'm reading it right now as well. Very interesting and sad book. Learning the history of the church really makes me sick that I used to view the leaders as saints.
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Haha! Absolutely nothing! Depends on if you have small kids who wake you up early or not.
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It's a must. Gotta end the day with a bang! ;-)
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I get so sick of this too! I have a "friend" who I became acquainted with a few years ago at church. She asked me to go to dinner with her a couple months ago to catch up. I thought it was going to be a relaxing girls night...WRONG! As soon as we sat down to eat she said "so when are you going back to church?" I told her "never." And after I explained some of my reas
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Thank you. I think having my own dad gone so much my whole life for the cult made me resent it to an extreme and I couldn't do that to my own child and husband. I didn't want to become what I hated.
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I hated the separation from my child when we did go. I felt very uncomfortable leaving them with total strangers while I sat in RS and listened to women cry about all sorts of nonsense. Life makes so much more sense after removing religion from it.
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You brought up some great points! I have thought about how strange it is that they created one night focused on family. One night out of 7 that the family will not be disturbed by the church...that's seriously pathetic. Your point on grandparents being sent away is so right. The short amount of time grandparents have with their grandchildren before their health goes totally downhill is spent away
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You're so right about questioning authority. I was taught to do exactly as I was told (as are many members of the church). It took me so long to work up the courage to break free from that!
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I feel sorry for the families in TSCC now. They spend all of their extra time at church, fulfilling roles in their "callings" that are pointless. My dad was notorious for spending more time at church than with his own family. I used to think that was noble somehow- now I feel so angry and hurt by it. From the moment my DH and I were married and started having kids we chose each other ov
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I experienced that same advice from 3 bishops when trying to work through PTSD as well. None of them wanted to help me, they just wanted me to keep "serving the lord" and paying tithing. I would ask to be released from callings so I could minimize my stress while dealing with some of my personal issues and they all would say "let's give you an easier calling so you can still have b
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I think ^ scaredhusband ^ advice is good to make a list of what is really important to you and then share those thing with her. If she sees you have good intentions behind leaving that are in favor of her, she might be more understanding. I haven't experienced this with my own marriage, but my brother who I am very close with went through this with his wife. A few years ago he decided to stop att
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Love all the stories, thanks for sharing everyone. It just shows how TSCC messes with men and women's minds. They push marriage marriage marriage!!!! Women assume the men are in control and should be treated almost as a master. The men are badgered into finding a wife and being mr. perfect peter priesthood.... it suppress everyones sexuality. No wonder there's a lot of messed up relationships in
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I was talking to my husband about why I am SO happy to be out of the church. Then we went down the singles ward memory lane and through all of our interesting dating experiences, and we talked about this one...So I am wondering if anyone else had guys try to manipulate them into doing what they wanted based on their "personal revelation". One of the worst ones for me...I JUST graduated
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My hubby and I have been out for one year and have been looking into tattoos for probably two years. He is a lot more serious about getting one and most likely will in the next year. It's fun thinking of all the possibilities!
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Oh my gosh yes I remember that taste! Childhood memories just came rushing back ;-)
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I HATED wearing them from the very moment I put those suckers on. When my hubby and I were first married I would wear them half of the time around the house because it was freaking hot! I am a hot blooded person to begin with...we lived on the 4th floor in our apartment complex so it was too much to handle wearing multiple layers...including my bra OVER the top. Ah! Thinking about that makes me w
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This makes me so angry and disgusted. Those poor women, I cannot believe they are punished for being attacked.
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spending a relaxing day with my family :)
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