Butterfly, This man exhibits such classic signs of being an abuser, like so many have said. He is pulling you into his web. Get smart and get out. He is dangerous. He has manipulated your thinking and feelings. You need to reclaim yourself. Good job for hearing our words and trusting YOUR INSTINCTS. They are true. This man is toxic and he has hurt you and will continue hurting you. If you want
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Thank you so much for sharing your stories. What incredible journeys you have traveled. My heart aches to hear them so thank you so much for giving me and others courage to move forward with life and be true to ourselves.
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This is very illuminating. I wish there were an open thread/or a board dedicated solely to this topic specifically dedicated to abuse in this religious culture. Perhaps it could promote more awareness and change. It's very sad, very scary, and nothing to just ignore.
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The mother now has custody of the children. Apparently she got out of the marriage and fled after being totally physically and emotionally controlled. I heard different stories from both parties and don't really want to be involved in knowing details. She is still recovering 6 years later from the psychological toll it took. I believe she left the church. I wish I could believe that it is safe to
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Ive been hearing more and more stories about how destructive this lifestyle is; the opposite of what it purports to be. Perhaps I was so naive when I joined the church and believed all the mumbo jumbo about love and kindness, tenderness and mercy. A bunch of PR I guess is what took hold of my heart. I'm realizing my own experience is not unique but rather a common one.
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Thank you so much for your story. I had no idea how serious this really was, or how much I did for the children. Thank you so much for your words of encouragement. I cannot tell you how much they help. I was finally in touch with his ex wife and she was so thankful I stepped forward and contacted the police. I do feel afraid but not enough to let him have power over me. I think any person t
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I have just come to this forum. I have seen a startling amount of information and accounts of people describing systematic psychological, emotional and physical abuse which is classified as domestic violence. The mormon church seems to publicly put such emphasis on having a loving and Christ like approach to families, but I am hearing and have first hand seen the opposite which is truly saddeni
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Thank you for this reply, it certainly helps my bewilderment and lack of understanding. I do not feel safe anymore but to hear your story and know that these criminals and predators and evil doers are everywhere and have been for a long time.... well that brings a sense of comfort. To trust my heart and gut. And to know that I must be wary and make myself stronger so I should not fall prey again
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I am a convert of 2 years. I am 36. I am becoming inactive because of this event. I met a man in the temple and we began dating, for 4 months. Long story short, I got a creepy feeling about how he was parenting his 4 kids. One day he lied to me about locking my dog in his garage all day while I was in grad school. He tried to make his kids lie about it but when I confronted him I realized that
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I became a very devout and golden convert over 2 years ago. I had been suffering from a neuro-immune disorder characterized by neuropathic pain and migraines from back to back car accidents. I was well versed in the Bible and loved my community church but was looking for more. I wanted to be baptized and wanted more healing. Along came the missionaries. I felt the Spirit. I did everything
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