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Date: January 30, 2011 11:58PM
oliver cess Wrote:
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> How has leaving Mormonism changed your life?
10% richer 100% FREER.Infinite% happier!
> How has it changed your outlook in life?
3 hours of freed up life, and excitement, instead of hours and hours of useless make work projects, 15 hours a month, and 6 hours going back and forth to the temple. relieves alot of depression, when I can actually allocate that time to rest recovery, and doing things that enrich my life.
> How has it changed your character?
>> Truly happy and cheerful person.
> How has it changed your social views?
I tend to want to help people leave this cult, but more importantly I want to assist people to suffer less (volunteering), So I can spend my time actually doing USEFUL service. Instead of mindless make work service.
> Have you found any new strength outside in
>>> Although I am still struggling to find my neiche in the world, leaving Mormonism, forces you to give up the opiate of the masses, and make a so called "go" in the world your own. This demands resonsibility, as you can't blame a God, or blessing or not blessing you. That you are your own person, your own destiny, and your own story. You are the lead in your own story, instead of being a sidekick in Smith's or the Priesthood. This is your Sitcom, your mini series. This is Your life. This is you. You no longer have "I'm a Latter day "Saint", identification label. You broke free of the Morg-cube. and as Geordie explained individual Ann Raynd isms to Huge the Borg. Geordie, wants what Geordie wants. etc etc etc. This is the American dream (when eventually I get myself a Green Card). And most importantly who gives a flying bleep of how you dress (the so called "Freaks of Walmart" facebook page).. This is what I love about America, you dress how you WANT TO DRESS. YOU Do how you want you to do, (legally of course). With the Mormon hymn "I say what you want to say oh lord, I'd do what you want me to do. I'll go where you want me to go on lord, I'll be what you want me to be". T
his is most Unamerican. In America (once I get a Green card, and pay taxes, and voluneer for Scouts, and Congressional Youth Award, and live where I can cut my own grass etc etc etc with pets, and I EARN the love of my children or spouse). In America, You are guarenteed three things "Life (murderers are unamerican traitors), presuit of happiness, and liberty. This applies to your life now as a Ex-mormon. You are your own person. This is how us kitty cats do it. Either you love us, or don't but F.O. either way. meeooooowwwwwww purrr purrrr.
> yourself now that you have left?
> And basically I want to know how leaving Mormonism
> has made you who you are today.
>
>>> For starters, I have my brain back. I am responsible for my consequences, not oh noes the Bishop yelled at me (which sucks especially if you put your heart into something), your beliefs are yours not the Morgs. YOU CHOOSE who you want to associate with instead of the Naziesque question 'Do you associate with enemies of the church?". You chose what you want to do with your money. Instead of tithe settlement (I chose the charities, and no they don't include building grand temples). You can chose chose and chose some more. It's tiring on the brain I know. Professor Parnasis (one of Heith Ledger's last movies actually), begged "no more choices", as he wandered the insides of his imaginarium (his brains, and all he could find were signs posting locations back and forth). Sitting down and vegging out enjoying life after major triumphs in life is very refreshing. Not so with Mormonism Mormonism it's learn learn learn, go go go. (forgetting that their own relgion states that in heaven when you don't have a physical body to tire you out, you can still intellectually (ha ha ha Mormonism), stimulate yourself.
"Perfecting the Saints", is a common theme with Mormonism. You're never enough. Keep growing. Forget that you have a human body, that needs to feed itself, that you have children who need physical and emotional nurshionment, forget that the church sucks away 3 hours of your life every Sunday, that that you must give, away hard earned money that could be used to enrich your life and children's lives as well as support your physical obligations (food and house). Forget that your brain is porrige. Forget that you owe taxes.... oh don't forget the temple trip! (For us Calgarians when there was no Calgary temple, it was 6 to Cardston, (3 there and back), like honestly if you're a tired adult parent, who just wants one second to rest and vege out, (or more if you're an Autistic like me). But no you have to prefect yourself. An impossible task, for only Jesus can prefect us. If we're willing to take this opportunity.
I honestly feel miserable for those of you guys who have spent 40 years, living like this. :_( (Sad cat). esepcially if you grow older and the body has took on damage, and regenerates slower. The Mormon church. Give give give, work work work, prefect prefect prefect, and then the posters "if you love them leave them", (grandparents to grand kids, to go on a mission).
> I'm not a Mormon and never have been. I just moved
> to Utah and want to better understand why people
> leave the church and what changes in life they
> find after leaving.
>>> Total freedom, and happiness? No Leaving the church is extremely rocky. During the early ages of facebook say 2008-2009. Alot of us would feel compelled to post libertarian posts from the heart. Only to get "blocked" (removed), by loved ones. Like actual flesh and blood loved ones. It honestly hurts during the love bombing phase. Mormons actually do care about us, (on an individual familar level, we're a very close knit community), As a Young Single Adult. I had many friends (actual friends who came to my house and visited me here, throughout my childhood, I had so called "I have 0 friends" (southpark facebook episode). The Love bombing phase consists of becoming a project for a ward to reactivate. Honest friendly intentions, because Christianity or Mormonism, or Islam or whatever works for someone doesn't mean it wont' work for you, but they think you're defective like a mental patient, or someone who has the illness. and they want to honestly heal you. But the thing is nothing is wrong. You want to coexist and leave quietly but you are love bombed, given gifts, suprise visits from neighbors, or members who you're close with in the church. or your mentor. And it hurts at first to quarrentine yourself. after making the decision to stop going to church, being less active.
Because how you deny someone who is close to you? If they're being immature or frightened enough or at a lower level in their so called cosmic awareness, yadda yadda yadda. and you eventually have to cut them off completely. It's like breaking up with a boyfriend, or girlfriend, or spouse. After spending so much time, and intergrating person into your life. It's like the old house you grew up in, but you have to move out as it's located in the ghetto, termites are chewing it up, or it's ready to collapse after years of neglect etc.
Then the phase comes as if you kindly rebuff them. They might get hurt. You might get hurt, but you have to do this for your sanity, for your cardiac organs to remain intact. You write your exit letter. (a resignation letter), unlike conventional churches, Mormonism actually exists much like the Vatican, as a "government" or God's kingdom church, with courts and tribunals, and throne system and beleive that the priesthood has some sort of political power in the kingdom to come. (where as conventional churches, believe that they are "citizens" in this kingdom). So leaving means sort of like how someone denounces their old citizenship, turns in their passport (resignation letter). the government remonstrates but has to relent. But takes it own sweet time, to do so. (to retain what little power it has over you for as long as possible) they'll say they lost the papers, or they need to go through a trial period, before you're totally serious, ignoring secular powers that insist that you have a right to CHOOSE. then the fists start flying with relatives, close friends who you though you were friends. Because to them you're rejecting everythign they believe. (when no, you're just excercising your American desire to try and find what makes you happy in this sad sad sad world, and you wonder why they won't even allow you this privilige, when the world denies it to you). Normally helping people enjoy life, is what I enjoy and joys me.
Then the shunning begins. Your friends who loved you, your family tend to disappear. Trying to keep your influence away from them, that you might actually suceed (and many do, after the recovery period. Which may take years. I'm still relatively recovering now, some of use here have been sexually abused, physically abused, definatly emtionally abused, otherwise we wouldn't have left).....
Family might not even stop with their mission to bring you back to the Eternal Family. (Mormons believe that familes when sealed together may remain forever connected), if I had accendants I would definatly want them to enjoy happiness, find joy, perhaps if they so chose would honour me, is that they honestly help others find comforting joy.
In Utah there are reports here, that sometimes outright shunning has become unprofessional, as some of us are denies customers, or boycotted (I know that my Gas station, when I was slowly experimenting with returning, was frequented by my former ward members, however, when I eventualy stopped going for good this time. So did they). Some even have nosey former friends turn the asile conrner when shopping and other childish acts of immaturity.
But alot of us are slowly rediscovering ourselves, excercising our hearts. finding out what our dream is. for instance mine would be to leave china, and settle in Hong Kong for a while, and culturally enrich myself with a Chinese musical instrument, make a huge string of fire crackers, in the snape of the Calgary Flames, and fire them off so they glow at night, and cc it to the Flames, to practice a Martial art, and to give blood (something my Chinese classmate bullies who are working nice comfy jobs didn't do. Sure I'm dumber than a rock, and slow clumsy. But I helped serve the Chinese people. Their people. so call me a retard and shun me. I have done something they haven't bring gentlness to vulunerable Chinese. AND still earn a nice suburban living....