Posted by:
adamisfree2006 (formerly on_my_way_out_2)
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Date: February 09, 2011 10:16AM
Since next Tuesday I will also celebrate my 25th wedding anniversary with my forever girlfriend, I thought I would reflect on the past 5 years since leaving TSCC.
DW and I are doing excellent. We have navigated the marital challenges associated with one party member changing teams in the middle of the game. My DW fortunately saw the light a few months after me and we were able to leave together, on our wedding anniversary 5 years ago. We are learning to appreciate wine and other spirits. ;-) My motto is "liquor is cheaper than tithing!"
Our children have had a challenging time. Some have weathered things well while others have struggled to redefine themselves after being yanked from the comforting structure of religion. Overall I would give them all a B for a grade. Perhaps one has an A while another has a C+!
With such a large extended family, we have experienced the full range of responses. I chose to be very open about my leaving the church while my DW was less open. My parents have agreed to disagree and seem to be accepting and comfortable around us. My in-laws are getting better but still seem very uneasy around us. They also occassionally will drop the "love bomb" comments with good intentions but very annoying.
Our siblings are a mixed batch as well. One of my brothers left 6 months after I did. The other 2 are active members. My wife has a 3 sisters who are very inactive but still members and 3 who are very active. I do notice that the active member siblings interact with us less. (Note: none of our siblings live closer than 4 hours or even in the same state.)
Overall we are a blissfully happy exmo family! Again thanks to my RfM family for the support over the past 5+ years since I found out I was "not alone"! Peace out!
Adam