Posted by:
Joy
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Date: January 08, 2014 05:01AM
I sympathize with you--except for the fact that you do not live in Utah. There ought to me more good non-Mormons for you to meet. don't expect too much of people at first. Mormons have a very unrealistic, bloated vision of popularity. No one "real" is all that popular! No one has cars parked in front of their house, and people constantly ringing their doorbell, unless they are selling drugs, or MLM stuff, or a bishop or a RS pres (people come to them for money or help.) Mormons judge others by the amount of money they make and the number of friends (potential converts) they have. "Every member a missionary.
If you are a guy, and have two friends, you are normal. The average woman has 3-4. I mean, "come over to my house and hang out, then lets to grab a hamburger" kind of friend, who doesn't require that you clean his toilets or play the piano, or recruit or sell his product. You've been had.
You are absolutely normal for a 30-year-old. Every one of my adult children came home to live, off and on. All of them were putting themselves through the university, and at one time, it was like a fraternity-sorrority house around here. One son came home to finish graduate school, and he was probably lonely during that time. He got married at age 37, and is very successful. One daughter and her husband are living in my house, because his company opened a new office here, and they are waiting for their other house to sell. It never hurts to save money.
I wish there could be a book to teach ex-Mormons how to be socially normal--I would be the first to buy it! I was divorced at 40, and never married again, because I didn't like what the Mormon had to offer single people. I had been raised to fear non-Mormons, and to never date anyone who was not a Mormon. Luckily, I worked hard to reach beyond that, and get to know people of other cultures and races and beliefs. The people out there are great! Life will be an adventure for you! Even without the Mormon God, you can believe in LOVE. Life out the outside is HEAVEN! Don't be afraid. You will find someone to help you, always--doctors and nurses, attorneys, police, fire fighters, taxi drivers, RFM, unexpected strangers--all these people have helped me tremendously, when I was in need! You don't need the cult at all. The church needs your money and your time. Give it to yourself, instead.
Enjoy your hobbies, that you used to enjoy when you were in high school or when you were a child. You will meet others who share your same interest. I find that people who love animals and children are usually very nice people. I've met some nice people on hikes, on the chairlift skiing, at the parks. Meet single parents at McDonalds on Sundays. If you are female, you can always meet a man shopping on Christmas Eve. You will learn where to find people you'd enjoy being with. Just start a simple conversation. Get their stories! People have the most amazing stories to tell! They will make you laugh! You don't have to be intimate with anyone, or ask personal questions, or interfere in their life (like the Mormons do). Just a simple conversation is a start.
Don't be so down on yourself. Beware of the Mormon shunning and gossip. They want to make you feel bad about yourself, and it seems like they might be succeeding. Don't let the turkeys get you down!