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We don't do Valentine's much, nor do we do much on the birthday front. Or Mothers' Day. Or Fathers' Day. Or Labor Day. Or Guy Fawkes Day. Or German Reunification Day.
Anyway, I've been trying to crank it up a bit because our relationship got strained when I quit the church a couple of years ago. So I've been trying to be more romantic over the last while and actually spend some cash money for good gifts. I got DW a nice set of expensive ear rings (by that I mean $100 or more--not HUGEly expensive), and she really liked them. I went off to work, and when I got back she gave me a nice decorated gift back of kitchen stuff (a hobby cook, I am) and *a $15 Starbucks gift card!* Is this progress? Acceptance? I hope so.
Anyway, I've been trying to crank it up a bit because our relationship got strained when I quit the church a couple of years ago. So I've been trying to be more romantic over the last while and actually spend some cash money for good gifts. I got DW a nice set of expensive ear rings (by that I mean $100 or more--not HUGEly expensive), and she really liked them. I went off to work, and when I got back she gave me a nice decorated gift back of kitchen stuff (a hobby cook, I am) and *a $15 Starbucks gift card!* Is this progress? Acceptance? I hope so.
your TBM wife bought you a Starbucks gift card? I'd say that's more than just acceptance-- and definitely progress. Keep cranking it up, looks like it's working. :0)
not a thing wrong with that! May the romance continue!
Well done my friend. Keep it up, it is worth it!
At one point, I almost had my TBM wife convinced to buy me a subscription to Playboy for my birthday!
...that it's been so long since she's been paid any attention? Maybe you think you're taking your cues from her--as men like to claim they're doing, "oh, she's aloof and not talking to me, she wants to be left alone." Sounds to me like she's taking her cues from you--"oh gosh, he's paying me some attention, maybe he does want to be with me." Sometimes a woman just needs to feel wanted.
Of COURSE the Starbucks card is progress. I'll bet she knows you love coffee--probably grind your own beans and hate Folgers. If anything it says, "if I can accept some of what I consider your flaws, can you accept some of mine? Can you just act like you want to be around me?"
And then again, I may not have a clue what I'm talking about. But I probably do.
Of COURSE the Starbucks card is progress. I'll bet she knows you love coffee--probably grind your own beans and hate Folgers. If anything it says, "if I can accept some of what I consider your flaws, can you accept some of mine? Can you just act like you want to be around me?"
And then again, I may not have a clue what I'm talking about. But I probably do.
Rad! 15 bucks is like 2 drinks, so maybe you can invite her with you too? Get a muffin and a frap? Ease her into it?
sex is a good gift on valentines' day
I give my wife and girls Valentine's gifts, then I anxiously await White Day in March for my gift(s).