Posted by:
forestpal
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Date: February 18, 2011 03:53AM
Are you by any chance in Utah? If you are, that would explain your loneliness. When I resigned from the cult, I lost all of my neighborhood TBM "friends." I thought I was going crazy, but this board helped me to understand that I was being shunned. Others had had the same experiences, and that made me feel that I wasn't alone.
Mormon parents often learn to love only conditionally. Some people on this board have been disowned by their TBM parents when they leave. Some have had their spouse divorce them, and choose the cult over their marriage.
The Mormon cult breaks up families, and breaks up friendships.
It took me a couple of years to feel settled and at peace. Fortunately, I have some good, loyal childhood friends, from California, who are stuck in Utah, too. Several of my favorite relatives (with salt in their lives) have left the cult also. My children and I are closer than ever. The only real arguments we ever had were about that stupid church, and now all that contention and family divisiveness is gone.
The Mormon cult stresses social popularity too much! It is because they want "every member to be a missionary," to recruit other tithe payers. Give me a break! In real life, no one has all that many friends. The average number of friends for an adult is 4-5 for a woman, and 2-3 for a man.
The Mormon leaders fear solitude, because that is an occasion for people to think. I was terribly lonely at first, in my empty nest, in a hostile neighborhood, but now enjoy my alone time, and spend some of it reading all that great literature that I was not encouraged to read, and studying up on science and philosophy, etc. Get out in nature, even if it is snowing. The world has been transformed to glowing white, and right now is lighted by a full moon--you could see to read in my back yard.