Posted by:
givemethismoment
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Date: February 19, 2011 01:30PM
Hi everyone! If I could express my shock that I would even join a board entitled "exmormon.org" it would be crazy haha.
I have been raised in the church, both of my parents are converts. I'm 17, the same age my mom was when she chose to leave the Catholic religion and join the Mormon church.
I'm a lesbian. I came out to my parents a few months ago, and they were both very accepting and loving. I have ALWAYS had a huge issue with the church's stance on homosexuality, but when I came out it amplified about 10000%.
I've realized in the last few weeks that I'm kind of tired of being Mormon. I'm tired of feeling like I have to dress like a loser to be 'modest' (seriously - my prom dress goes to the floor, covers an entire shoulder and shows no boobage, and yet it's 'immodest'? okay.), I'm tired of having to hide myself, and I'm tired of having to defend my beliefs to the public - beliefs that I honestly don't really hold anymore. Someone once said to me "Just because the gospel is perfect doesn't mean the people are" and that kept me going to church for a long time. But lately I'm just done.
I live in New Jersey, the LDS population is VERY small. I'm the only Mormon in my high school. I'm upset because I feel like the church has been a huge part of my identiy for my entire life. I know how much it means to my parents, and I know that they both risked being disowned by their parents for leaving the Catholic church (they were not disowned) so that my brother and I would have better lives - "the truth."
I'm a VERY spiritual person. I believe that there is a God out there, or at least something. I believe in a lot of the values that the church teaches - family values, some of the Word of Wisdom, etc, and intend to raise my kids accordingly. But I don't like having to leave church practically crying every week over something that SOMEONE said. I always feel like I'm living up to the expectations of someone else, and it's beginning to get in the way of my life.
I've explained to my parents that sooner or later I'm going to have to choose between the church and my life (because I'm gay) and I've made it pretty clear what my choice will be. I'm moving to Chicago in the fall for school, so I'm thinking that's probably when I'll go 'inactive'. I know my parents are dissapointed, but what's most important to them is that I'm happy (I'm very blessed to have them). Now, though, I have the fear of "what if I'm wrong and I'm condemning myself to outer darkness for eternity?"
Sigh. Not sure. This is very hard, it's not something I talk about EVER. I've been reading the posts on here for a few days, and it seems like pretty much everyone is really nice. Not gonna lie, when I first saw this website I thought it'd be full of a bunch of hardcore Athiest anti-Mormon propeganda spewers LOL. I'm VERY relieved to see that it's not that at all, just a bunch of NORMAL people.
Thank you for letting me 'vent.' this is something I'll be working on for a long time, and I definitely don't think it'll be easy.