Posted by:
The 1st FreeAtLast
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Date: March 04, 2011 03:12PM
Participating in psychotherapy, learning to fully and non-judgmentally accept/love oneself (one step at a time), trying things (e.g., drinking alcoholic beverages) that Mo-ism said were 'sinful' (also known as exploring Life and enjoying it!), meditation and many other healing 'strategies' are all excellent. In the final analysis, re-creating oneself after participation in cultic Mormonism means learning to de-identify with it and the suffering it caused.
An analogy may help: If a driver spends too much time looking in the rear-view mirror, he/she will not pay adequate attention to the road ahead and could get into an accident.
Reflecting on Mormonism, one's experiences in it, what it did to one's mind, perception of self, 'spiritual' beliefs, worldview, etc. is like looking in the rear-view mirror. Out of 16 or so waking hours each day, how much time do you spend doing that? Is that amount of time decreasing as the weeks and months pass?
People are 'programmed' to identify with a myriad of things. In the context of cultic Mormonism, millions of people were conditioned to regard themselves first and foremost as a Latter-day Saint. Being human was a distant second. 'Born in the church/under the covenant', 'priesthood holder', 'returned missionary', 'temple-married', and 'wife and mother in Zion' are some of the many labels used in the LDS Church that create a psychological foundation (a dysfunctional one, predominantly) that millions of people since 1830 have identified with.
But Mormonism is based on a fraud; a mountain of evidence supports this fact. When Latter-day Saints finally realize this 'inconvenient' truth, they're psychologically left to wonder (and figure out for themselves) "Who am I?" The healing/recovery journey has begun.
The more you think for yourself, the more you CONSCIOUSLY choose to behave in certain ways according to what you deem to be best for you (rather than mentally regurgitating other people's beliefs/values/ideas and acting accordingly), the more you will re-create yourself, post-Mormonism.
You may not believe it now, but as you do what I've suggested there will come a time when days and weeks will pass and not a thought about Mormonism and the LDS Church enters your mind. You will have, at the conscious level, re-programmed yourself. Meditation and other nurturing activities help to heal the psyche at the subconscious level.
The website about how Mormonism affects people psychologically may be of interest to you:
http://members.shaw.ca/blair_watson/Best wishes!