Posted by:
anon4drama
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Date: November 08, 2010 11:06AM
Yesterday, I was talking with my daughter (11) whose tbm mom is very controlling and sheltering (no internet, limited access to me or other no-mos). Daughter told me that my problem is that I'm too negative and can't see the positive in the church, which is why I left. She said that the BoM is troo because she feels it is in her heart. I asked if it was possible to feel something and it turns out false. She said that it's possible, but that there's more--there's evidence. The BoM is true because it is a book, and that is evidence of Joseph Smith's story being truthful.
I tried to explain that having a book is not evidence, just as a novel is not true just because it is printed. That scientists have found loads of data that counter the claims in the BoM.
She said that she knows there are scientists that are mormon and they wouldn't believe something if it really was false. I explained that nearly all scientist don't believe it, and that a few misguided ones don't make it true, after all, scientists are human and free to believe what they want whether true or false.
Her stance became tighter towards her feelings. That she knows that when she has faith and lives righteously, she feels the spirit and it strengthens her faith. I tried to explain that people of other faiths also feel their beliefs are true, even if they contradict mormon teachings. It didn't take at all. After that, I could only tell her that I appreciate her sharing it with me and hoped she would do so in the future.
The attitude during the conversation was very much like my ex--that because she felt something good, it was proof-positive that everyone that said differently was just plain wrong. Her mind is closing. And her tbm mom is the one holding the knob and keys as she locks the daughter in.
I really don't know if there is anything I can do...