Posted by:
soanonforthis
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Date: March 04, 2011 12:59AM
I guess in the back of my mind I kind of hoped all my deep-seated issues would be resolved once I wasn't ingrained in the church anymore. But I was diagnosed bipolar (much too late....well, I guess not TOO late since technically I'm still alive) recently. This isn't a surprise to me since I used to cut myself daily due to anxiety and stress (mostly because of guilt as a youth in the church....)
Well, I'm out, I'm officially out, and I guess I thought, or at least hoped, all those issues would resolve themselves. I suppose I should admit to myself that I know, "beyond a shadow of a doubt...with ever fiber of my being" that I would have killed myself by now had I stayed in the church. But I guess I'm a little sad/bitter that my mental illness was fostered and developed because of the cult I was raised in. I'm not sure I can ever regain mental health again.
Along those lines, it really bothers me when people are aghast that I announce I'm done having children after two (I should probably just quit announcing this, but people in the Morridor are so effing nosey that I just find myself answering these ridiculously invasive questions).
I mean, yes, my husband had a vasectomy because both of us knew the moment I got pregnant with my second that we were done. And people who are shocked that I would CHOOSE to quit having children voluntarily at 2...I wish I could tell them that mentally and emotionally I'm taxed. I fear for my life and my mental wellbeing as it is; another child would kill me. Why is it that I'm a sinner and prideful for quitting while I'm ahead instead of having 5 kids and killing myself before 40?!
I'm sorry that there are people who desperately want kids that can't have them. I'd give my fertility to them if I could. But I know that for the rest of my life that I don't want more kids. I am barely keeping my head afloat as it is as a full-time student, part-time employee, medicore mother and wife of a husband who works and goes to school full-time. And, no, "things won't change" after the stress in my life is reduced. It just means I don't want to slit my wrists daily.
I hate being raised in a culture that encourages me to overshare and respect authority figures that don't deserve it. Will I ever break free from the stupid traditions that I know to be wrong and insulting?!
Sorry for the posting while under the influence and ranting. Ignore this and move on. thank you.