Posted by:
MJ
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Date: November 23, 2010 02:09PM
axeldc Wrote:
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> Yours sounds the most egocentric of all. Does
> everyone have to bow and scrape and ask your
> permission on how to act around you?
Um, what happened to the "GOLDEN RULE" we were discussing? I said NOTHING about how I expected OTHERS to act toward ME, Where the F' did you get that? I was talking about how *I* act towards others and unlike YOU, I try to consider what the OTHER person wants and not just force what I want on them as you and your golden rule would do.
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> How are you supposed to know how to treat every
> individual around you?
Well, it is called close observation of how they act, understanding the culture from which they came, actually ASKING the person, noticing when my actions cause issues, talking with the person getting to know the person, you know actually engaging the person not just forcing what I want on them the way you and the golden rule would have. There is also a set of rules we live by to get along, it is called CULTURE.
> The Golden Rule is the
> only guide to 99% of the people you meet.
Oh. look, a made up statistics, how clever, but meaningless. Since I have made it a practice to pay close attention to the people around me to understand what THEY want and not just force what I want on them, I have observed that the golden rule fails quite often. Maybe if you spent more time paying attention to what others want and not just forcing what you want on others, you would see how flawed your fake stats really are.
Seriously, "he Golden Rule is the only guide to 99% of the people you meet." sounds a shit load like "TSCC is the one true church" and neither statement is true. Understating the culture is a far better guide to how to treat people than the golden rule. People from different cultures what to be treated in different ways, sometimes dramatically different ways, many times what is polite in one culture is rude and insulting in another. The golden rule fails miserably in such cases. Understanding cultural differences is a much better guide.
> Maybe
> your spouse can cater to your whims, but don't
> expect everyone else to.
Again, I am not demanding that THEY behave in any particular way, we are talking about how I would treat others. Why do you have to so misrepresent what I am saying, is that how YOU would want to be treated? Is that why you are misrepresenting what I said?
And yes, I do expect people to respect my feelings and not assume that what they want is OK by me. I would hate to have a masochist start treating me the way he would want to be treated.
A good example of the flaw in the golden rule would be to consider the giving of Christmas gifts, people that are good a giving the gifts that people like are good because they pay attention to the person and learn what they do and do not like. People that are bad at giving gifts often give what they want to receive assuming that everyone else in the world would want the same.
You and your golden rule give what you want assuming everyone else whats the same, and that simply is not true.
I mean seriously, do you really think it a bad idea for YOU to consider the feelings and needs of the people around you before you act?
Edited 3 time(s). Last edit at 11/23/2010 02:26PM by MJ.