Posted by:
Bridget
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Date: December 21, 2010 04:21PM
The two family members who were there who did the "saving" are trustworthy. They reported their shock at the other family member's attitude to me, and said they knew, that regardless of the circumstance, it was the nearest adult's duty to step in and save a life.
They had no reason to lie or brag, and because of their height, compared to the small child, they were willing to brave the water. It wasn't in the midst of really deep high waves; it was a family beach and close to the water's edge. If you had some water safety training, you'd know that a child can drown in a very small amount of water
I apologized to them both after the incident because I realized I should not have left my kid's side, even for a very short errand--particularly near water. I had wrongly assumed that with that many adults around, he'd be fine. But was wrong.
I would never consider leaving my kids with anyone like that ever again.
At the time, I was not there due to running an errand. The reunion was going to last for several days, and as a solo parent, I desperately needed to run an errand without kids, and at the time, figured my very large extended family would be able to help me out for just a half hour or hour (I was present for most of the reunion but had one quick errand to run) . I learned from that experience not to try to leave my kids with anyone ever, while running an errand, and instead, found a great drop off service where I could drop my kids if needed--something that previously hadn't existed in my neighbourhood).
Yes, it was not their responsibility to care for my children throughout the entire activity or even through any of it. But, my main point was that when someone is drowning or near death, you stop whatever else you're doing, and save that person, or try to get help for that person.
What was most offensive to the two family members who did the saving, was the attitude of the person who refused. Yes, it wasn't his responsibility to babysit--but in my books and I suspect for most decent adults, it's never an option to not help someone who is obviously in need of help, particularly a child, period. If his kids were drowning next to me, there is no chance I would never have refused. I can't even fathom thinking that way.