Posted by:
anonymous
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Date: December 31, 2010 06:33PM
Background: My ex is a TBM with a history of molestation in his family. He was molested by his grandpa and others and he in turn molested his friends at a young age. He didn't reveal any of this to me until after we had kids. I was heart-broken and he promised he would never leave his kids alone with his Dad. His family, Bishop, and even Stake President were involved, but not surprisingly, authorities were never called.
Jump to the present: After going through a divorce, I confronted my in-laws about the abuse in their family. They said they knew nothing of it and that they were hurt that nothing had been said to them before. They promised me they would protect my children and never let anything bad happen to them while they were at their house with their dad.
Recently, I've caught my 8 year-old son exposing himself to a friend, and also using my back massager on his crotch and showing friends how to do it.
Is this normal for kids? I don't know if I'm over-reacting to the situation because of the history of my ex or if this behavior is abnormal for boys. I know boys can be more curious than girls and I know my brothers did some pretty dumb things, but I feel completely helpless, clueless and scared. What if I turn into one of those TBM moms who make their sons feel like criminals for masturbating??? Someone please help.