Posted by:
Makurosu
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Date: February 21, 2011 02:10PM
When I was in college, there was a couple in my home ward that I used to hang out with. They were very cool people with diverse interests. Despite their unusual openmindedness, they were also very Mormon. That was a bit disappointing to me, because I had major problems with the Mormon church. I felt trapped by the Church, and I was going through a phase where I knew something was wrong, but I couldn't identify what it was or what to do about it. I made the mistake of talking about my problems with Mormonism with them one day, and it affected our friendship. I went back to college, married and rarely went back home and never saw them again. I left the Church about ten years later.
I've been thinking about them lately, so I looked them up on Facebook. I learned that they had left the Church and divorced. I was sad to learn that, because they seemed then to be so right for each other. They would finish each others' sentences. They loved the same unusual things. They even looked alike. She keeps a blog, and I read a little of it this morning. She talks about being oppressed all her life and the emotional scars and how free she feels now, but I still sense a lot of pain. She is a very talented writer and photographer, which I had no idea years ago. He seems to have become a hermit, gaining a tremendous amount of weight and growing an unsightly beard and long hair.
I'm not sure why I'm writing this. I'm happy that they have found their way out of Mormonism, but I feel really bad for them. I've read countless similar stories on RfM of people who have left Mormonism and suffer emotional scars from a lifetime of involvement in the religion, but the damage is a lot more stark when you see it in people you know. Used to know anyway. I haven't decided if I'm ready to get back in touch with them.
I'm really just sad to see the wreckage this church leaves behind in its wake.