Posted by:
ThinkingOutLoud
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Date: March 10, 2011 05:37AM
Remove the words Mormon and missionary from your tale. They are irrelevant here.
You arrived home to find two relative strangers (people you've seen before but who are not your friends, or even well-known to you) in your front and back yards.
These relative strangers, two of them, both older and larger than your son, are 19 year old adults. And they have ulterior motives for being on your property and communicating with your son.
They, instead of encouraging your son to call you, or his dad, or another responsible adult known to him, instead decide to help him break into a house that is not theirs. Or, technically, his.
They proceed to try to do this. Note that THEY do it. Your son stands in the yard and does not participate.
Their own rules say they can't enter the home of a single woman, or take a ride from a strange man while they're out proselytizing others, because of the appearance of sin or a sense of inappropriateness, if they do.
But them thinking that entering your house--not thru an open door, at your invitation--was more than okay with them?
That is weird and off-putting. Inappropriate. Not right.
I don't care if what they wanted in the end is his soul, or your dvd player. Their motives for being there and doing what they did were not simply "let's help this kid out, out of the goodness of our hearts."
I would expect different behavior from someone held out to others as an example of a responsible adult.
Like, "Here's a cell phone; see if you can call your mom (or that nursing home) and let's see what she says we should do here." Or maybe, "Hang tight and wait for your siblings here on your own front porch; come get me/call me if you need me. I'll be next door."
If these two young men, 19 years old, are too young to know how to react similarly in simple matters such as these, or are too immature to be given a cell phone they can be trusted to use responsibly, wth are they doing out roaming the streets as the face of the LDS church?
While I don't think you need to make a federal case out of this with them, and you do need to have a talk with your son about his own lack of responsibility in this incident, I too find this somewhere between "weird" and "hair standing up on the back of the neck" on the standard Mom is Freaking Out scale.
I'm neverMo, and a mom, if that helps.