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serena
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Date: February 12, 2011 12:14PM
Sorry to insert my experience, but I know no other way: I kind of test-drove my husband (horrible sounding) before we got married because of this, but not quite to this extent, so we lived together first, only 20 minute drive from his family.
His sister and brother were ok, never ever tried to interfere, and after 17 years, still don't, but the dad and mom especially made it clear they didn't like me. Well, my husband is not nearly as close to them as I am to my parents and family, so it hasn't been a major issue, just occasionally a small one. My son & I are his family, and we definitely come first.
Whose side is your boyfriend on? I think you should let him know about the facebook incident. It's best to be very honest with him, if he's important to you. The only thing I think couples shouldn't share is history with exes. That's more info than they should be saddled with.
No, you don't marry the family, but they'll always be in the background; they're his baggage. He's an adult now, I assume, and how much involvement there is is largely up to him. Does he still live with them?
He needs to know what you found out, if you want to build on your relationship with him. This is a good test for long range potential, although it could be painful and end badly.
However, honesty really is the best policy.
At least you know where you stand with those other people. Never, ever trust them as far as you can throw them.
Good luck, and keep us posted.
Yes, this garbage certainly does happen with non-Mormons too! But when a cult is at the core of it, hoo boy, that's a whole nuther barrel of koolaid!
Edited 1 time(s). Last edit at 02/12/2011 12:23PM by serena.