Posted by:
westernwillows
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Date: April 30, 2011 11:43AM
I'm an exmo woman married to a nevermo man. Even growing up TBM, I never thought that I would have children (can't stand to be around babies...yes I know everyone claims they're different if they're your own, but I never felt the desire to have a baby) DH and I discussed this early on when we were dating, and he was okay with it. I'm open to adoption, he's not, so we dote on our two nephews and we both seem satisfied with having them around and not having any of our own.
I brought up the subject of a vasectomy. Thus far I've been solely responsible for the birth control, and if we're not going to have children, I'd prefer to take a permanent step rather than what we're doing now. I'm only 27, so the odds of finding a doctor that would do something permanent to me are low. DH is 39. I'd like him to do something in the next two years. He refuses to discuss it. He won't give me a straight answer as to why. He won't outright say he wants children, either. I've told him that if he wants to have a baby, I'm open to it, but there's a timeline on it. It would have to happen in the next 2 years or so, so DH is still young enough to enjoy it.
So men, give me your opinions! Think he wants to have a baby and just won't tell me? Or is a vasectomy just something a little too scary to contemplate? I'm going to keep trying to weasel it out of him, but I'd like a man's point of view on this one. Since I grew up TBM, all the guys I knew claimed they wanted children. I'm not sure how it is with nevermo men.