Posted by:
Greyfort
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Date: May 01, 2011 08:23AM
I no longer have a belief in God, but I'm just as moral as I was before I joined the Church, during my membership there, and now as an ex-Mormon. I have not changed much at all, except that I now admit that I like colourful language. LOL
The only real difference, besides being happiers, is that I'm actually far less judgmental, even though I'd thought I was non-judgmental when I was a Mormon. Looking back now, I wasn't quite as tolerant as I'd thought I was.
I was not raised with religion. I was baptized Catholic as an infant, which of course I don't even remember. I was taken to the Anglican Church around the age of 3, but that only lasted a matter of months. From that point, until I decided to investigate churches myself from about the age of 12 or 13, I had no religious education.
My parents did not teach me to be a strongly moral person. It was simply my character, and still is. My own mother called me too old-fashioned. I think perhaps that's one reason I was attracted to the Mormon Church in the first place. The kids I met there set high standards for themselves, as I did for myself. So I fit right in.
My brother and sister have their own set of moral standards, which are different from mine, but are right for them. They are both good and decent people.
I think that if I'd not been a strongly moral person, that being in the Mormon Church would not have changed that. I probably would simply have gone on being who I was in secret, as I suspect many do.
But even while I'm typing this, something is bothering me. It's that judgment thing again. Who is to say that I have a better moral code than someone else does? If I've never believed in sex outside of marriage, but someone else does, does that make me better than they are? Of course not. It simply makes us different. We are simply being true to ourselves and our own natures.
To me, it would be the extremes of morality which would not be good. Such as, if someone's own personal standards would allow them to cause great harm to other people - to belittle others, to steal, to rape, to murder. I guess such a person would be referred to as someone who does not have a good moral fabric.
The other side of that coin is also not good though. It would be someone whose moral code is so rigid that they are inflexible. They are the types who would impose their personal moral code on others, with no regard to another's personal standards or life choices. They'd probably feel quite superior in their own moral code while taking away the rights of others as well.
To me, the ideal would be where one has a strong sense of helping one another, not doing harm to others, and is accepting of the differences of others. Sexual morality amongst consenting adults would be a personal choice, again as long as no harm was done to others.
It has nothing to do with whether or not one is religious. Religion can sometimes cause people to be the inflexible extreme type, imposing their standards on others, as we've seen the Mormon Church do.
I think it should be more about being true to ourselves, while always keeping in mind the greater good, which affects how we treat one another.