Posted by:
LochNessie
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Date: May 24, 2011 05:25PM
I have had a best friend since middle school. There were three of us, two were mormon and one "sara" was not, but sara did everything with us mormons. Chruch dances, girl's camp, mission farewells as we and our friends became that age. She would come and visit me at BYU twice a year. She went to the same college as our other mormon friend and was very active in their institute.
As you can see, Sara was very familiar with mormon culture and religion. She also thought JS was a crackpot and would say this very openly to other mormons. Mormons would always pressure her to take missionary lessons, as she was always at mormon activities, but she always said she was happy in her life. She loved her mormon friends, but that was it. She had no desire to join the mormon church.
Fastforward many years. Sara is living in a different state and starts dating a inactive mormon. I joke that she just can't seem to escape us. They get married. He is a good guy and I like him. The third member of our trio of best friends leaves the church. Shocking, but hey I respected her decision as I wasn't too keen on the church anymore myself.
Last year I had a long converstaion with sara about my leaving the church. She had been married to her inactive mormon for about 6 months and was even more shocked that I would leave then our other friend as it was such a part of my life and my family. She felt it was part of who I was. I explained all the problems I had with the church, the beliefs, that I had in fact started doubting at BYU. Considering that she has been my best friend for almost 20 years, she was very supportive, said she admired me, and was proud of me for figuring everything out.
Recently I started seeing pictures she posted on facebook that she said were taken at "ward activity night" or "Young Womens" posting about how she is grateful for her eternal companion. I asked her if she had become mormon and she responded that she had. The conversation ended there.
I don't know what to say. I am still in shock. I want to ask her what the hell was she thinking, but I know this is probably not the best way to keep a friendship. I want to ask her if she learned nothing from her two best friends. I guess I really just want to understand her thought process. Was it pressure from her husband's family? Does she really believe it? Should I even bring it up? It's really thrown me for a loop. I feel a little betrayed, which I know is ridiculous, but I do feel that way. Any advice would be helpful. Do I address this and if so, how?