Posted by:
derrida
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Date: May 25, 2011 03:08PM
I posted a tongue-in-cheek "don't blame the morg" reply on this thread
http://exmormon.org/phorum/read.php?2,187952,187952#msg-187952 a couple of weeks or so ago.
Timothy posted a rebuttal that I totally approve of. He called me an "apologist," which, if you know my posts, you know I'm not. But I enjoyed his post. I was hoping for someone to answer the position I was sarcastically parroting and he did (finally someone started spelling out what was wrong with that position).
In fact, my sarcastic "don't blame the morg" post was me channeling other voices on this board, voices that have pissed me off with their "leave the morg out of it" approach to our processing our anger, pain, and confusion, and, as Timothy rightly reminds us, our "recovery" (a most important word there) from a cult (if you don't think the church is a cult then I challenge you to pick up a copy of Steve Hassan's Combatting Cult Mind Control book, read it, and find yourself not being able to highlight or underline 75% or more of it as pertaining directly to the church's use of its doctrines and members).
On the one hand, how someone handles the spiritual rape conducted by the church is entirely their own affair. Others who mitigate the church's form of organizational abuse, or who normalize it as just another "tribe," are not helpful.
Maybe when one is ten or twenty years out of the morg, one can look serenely on and note that under the eyes of the cosmos, all this shall pass and we take offense and burn with anger only at our own peril. Fine. A lot of people come here though and they aren't at that place. They are in the trauma center, and something has caused that trauma, and to minimize that trauma is treacherous and practically in league with those who are the church's PR minions.
There is a taking sides in this life. We do live in a circumscribed, finite present, and we hurt and can be abused by organizations that only seek our affiliation to fill their own coffers and promote their own aims. Families are destroyed by the church. No one of any real experience of these matters (matters of disaffiliation) can deny that.
At best, the apologist position that says the morg is just another group like any other is playing the part of someone who is spiritually and psychologically so distant from the abusive organization that their advice is next to useless for those who are in the throes of spiritual pain and turmoil caused by the church. What's odd is that such people would even bother to post on a RECOVERY FROM MORMONISM site. Which does lead one to wonder about their motivations.
Acknowledging abuse is healthier than minimizing it (http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/8800526).
Edited 3 time(s). Last edit at 05/25/2011 04:42PM by derrida.