Posted by:
jessica
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Date: June 14, 2011 11:08AM
The parents being gone all the time topic mentioned here:
http://exmormon.org/phorum/read.php?2,216644reminded me of a thought that's been bothering me for awhile about "blessings" or "being blessed".
Do Mormons (or other religions, I've seen it in others too) actually create circumstances in which they need help intentionally so they will be blessed by service from others? Crediting God for blessing them when in fact if they'd thought more about their problem they would have been fine on their own?
An example that comes to mind is--the young married couple here:
http://exmormon.org/phorum/read.php?2,216483,216483#msg-216483But it can be as simple as expecting people at church to be babysitters while you do your calling. Sort of a it takes a village to raise a child point of view. I've clearly seen some mothers way over their head and rather be a parent they are expecting people from church to rush in and save the day.
I've never seen it so clearly until I said no to watching a friend's kid she was expecting me to take care of for free while she worked with no regard to what my plans were (this was done multiple times and I finally had enough), in our very heated email conversation she mentioned how horribly sad I must feel to miss the opportunity to serve others--like it was an expectation/duty that I was going to help whether I wanted to or not. Needless to say, we are no longer friends.
Do Mormons live life with the expectation or entitlement that they will receive all the help they need no matter what their circumstances? Even if it means burdening other people? And then call it a blessing from God? When if they'd just planned better or said no every once in awhile they wouldn't need outside help?