Received 2 letters since resigning: one from SL and one from bishop. The one from the bishop said my name was being removed. However, no mention of my children. So, I emailed him and asked him if it was an oversight. My TBM DH has not even asked to see either letter BTW. Before the bish responded to my email, a Sunday came around, him and the DH spoke and he told my husband that he wanted to get mine done, but the "handbook" was not specific in how to handle the children and would be getting back to me. So, IMHO, I think he is back pedaling. I would think the CHI would contain this scenario. The first email I said that I would engage legal action if necessary. He rambled something off to my husband about having my kids sign their names, but they are not of legal age to sign any documents. I believe they were hoping I would not notice the name removal being singular. Why on earth do they feel they have any right to usurp my rights as a parent to my children? My husband is fully aware that their names were included. Opinions and insight please.

Maybe a follow up letter to Greg Dodge might help too.

By the way, if the kids aren't old enough to resign then they aren't old enough to join either -- did he think of that? :D

Great point about their age Rebeckah.

Parents, as a child's legal guardian, are allowed to sign for that child. A child is NOT required to sign a resignation letter. This bishop is an ass and should be dealt with harshly, preferably by an attorney.

I do not think he is an ass (he is young, been a bishop less than a year, and still wants to be a friend)...he is just following orders I am sure. Their approach towards me has been extremely calculating and covert, hoping I would be as naive as I was 20 plus years ago. Thankfully I have you guys to help! I am woman...hear me roar!

I would like to k ow what the CHI says, but every link given I have been unable to find it. Surely there is a section devoted to what to do when my situation happens...I am sure they are just yanking my chain, but proof would be nice.

Start a new thread asking for a link or for a copy directly e-mailed to you. IIRC, your situation is covered and you can sign for your kids. Regardless of what the stupid book says, the law is on your side. Save the kids.

BP have done this to some people on this site . Say the childs must sign the letter also if Dad still a member.

Might I ask for what purpose? Any lawyers on this board? This is effing insane to me. I can have my kids sign a damn piece of paper, that is not an issue.

(LDS is nut) are your kids over 8 (read Heresy reply)

is hubby TBM? why would he Go Along with this?
R U (gasp) divorcing <HOPE NOT>? or, are these yr children (from a previous relationship/marriage), not hubby's????

i don't understand.



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No we are not divorcing and all the children are ours. After the shenagin pulled by a member of SP, I pulled my children from the church. After this incident, there was no middle ground for me. This same individual told the DH that they would need to start process to excommunicate me for joining another church. So I resigned to prevent them from marring my reputation with their disciplinary label. To be honest, I cannot stand that my husband still continues to choose the church. I will not let my children be indoctrinated against me and view me as a person in the "clutches of Satan".

How does TBM DH feel? Supportive? How is that working? Does he compromise?

Are you leaving him? You seem to have the upper hand and can control him in this situation. He can sign with you now or he can watch you do it alone after a divorce.

@Heresy: does CHI say anything about one parent leaving and children or one parent staying?

It does seem like I have the upper hand doesn't it? I do not need to justify my actions. I was playing nice and the church was not. A member of the SP should not come into my home, prepare an object lesson to be presented by my own kids pointed at their apostate mother PERIOD. My husband should have stopped him. I refuse to bow my head anymore...and believe me when I say that the church has had a detrimental effect on my kid's psyche. Bitch is not really my persona, though I have gone there a few times. ;)

Page 72, section 6.14
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A minor who wishes to have his name removed from the records of the church must follow the same procedure as an adult with one exception: the written request must be signed by the minor (if over the age of 8) and by the parent(s) or guardian(s) who have legal custody of the minor.

If two or more family members want their names removed from the records of the church, they need to prepare only one written request.
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Say you'd appreciate help to move the process along. You and the kids HAVE already resigned. The bish isn't facing it, but Greg Dodge is used to these little hangups and will likely help you.