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Date: July 08, 2011 07:52PM
Today was the last day of school and my sister and I took our last finals for the term.
My sister outright failed her test-- it was administered electronically so she got the results back immediately. With the way the exams are weighted, she'll pass the class, but it will affect her GPA and she doesn't have very many credit hours so it means she'll lose her scholarship.
She's really upset. I don't know what to do or say except that I'm sorry it worked out this way. She's not a lazy student-- she's a disciplined student and very bright. She works really hard. She has been studying non-stop the whole term but she tends to overthink and has bad test anxiety and this was her first time taking an accelerated course where they cram a whole semester into a month-- plus the teacher was a little flaky/confusing and inconsistent so she spent a lot of times spinning her wheels trying to figure out what was going on.
Plus that whole Mormon woman perfectionism-- I swear its in our DNA.
I don't know what to do or say. I feel so terrible. I'm afraid that this is really going to affect her self-esteem negatively. I'm good at dealing with failure (and I have dealt with it), because I have a weirdly healthy self-esteem-- that I earned in therapy over several years. She is opposite of me in this. She's a smart, funny, really cool person but she's got a terrible view of herself. I hate hate hate that she's going through this. I'd rather fail a class myself than watch her suffer like this-- and that's saying something.
Will it pass? What should I do? What should I say? Am I overreacting by being so upset that she's upset?