Posted by:
SusieQ#1
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Date: July 11, 2011 02:13PM
Mormonism from personal experience and observation of over three decades as a young adult convert.
People can become offended when they sense/feel/read/etc. that their generational, familial, patriarchal religious, Eternal Life based tribe is attacked in any way, especially by someone that has been an insider and full member of the societal construct.The invested, believing member often takes the position of: rejection, betrayal,etc., on a very personal level.Not everyone does that, of course, but some do.
Remember that Patriarchal Blessings have one core element: to tell the member which tribe they come from, which is predominately, in their belief: Ephraim.
"Declaration of Lineage
A patriarchal blessing includes a declaration of lineage, stating that the person is of the house of Israel—a descendant of Abraham, belonging to a specific tribe of Jacob. Many Latter-day Saints are of the tribe of Ephraim, the tribe given the primary responsibility to lead the latter-day work of the Lord."
REF:
http://lds.org/ldsorg/v/index.jsp?locale=0&sourceId=17517c2fc20b8010VgnVCM1000004d82620a____&vgnextoid=bbd508f54922d010VgnVCM1000004d82620aRCRDParents, for instance, can and do consider they failed in some way if any of their children leave the LDS Church, and will be responsible for that failure in the eternities. This can be heavy stuff and highly emotional.
Reminds me of the old adage: Don't like my dog? You don't like me!
There is a wide variety of responses to members leaving the LDS Church.
Some have a preconceived list of why people leave and stick to it. They go out of their way to slam and criticize the person that left. They often seem like they are retaliating.
On the other hand, some are able to keep personal religious views personal and just don't care what others choose to do or why they leave. They take the position that it's personal and none of their business.
I took the later position as a member. I knew dozens of LDS folks that were "inactive" or left, but unless they wanted to take me into their confidence, I accepted that it was none of my business. My attitudes were probably a remnant of my upbringing before I converted.
Ultimately, it doesn't matter what anyone thinks or believes about your choices. They are yours and you know your reasons and those are personal, in my view, and not up for discussion, unless you want to share.