Posted by:
Gabriella
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Date: July 16, 2011 03:22PM
Ok, I don't know if this sounds weird to you, but for me, by the time I was 12 I could NEVER see my life with the family I grew up with after 18. I lived with nothing but verbal and physical abuse my whole life. My parents hated everything about me that was not EXACTLY in keeping with Mormonism, that is unless mom was in a particularly bad mood and then it didn't matter, you couuld look left rather than right and she'd blow up. The point is, I'm realizing the abuse, the judement was so bad, that internally I actually could not see my life with them after 18. I felt the rejection to such a degree that I could not imagine living my whole life with them.
Also, I think the enormity of expectation after HS graduation with mission, marriage, children, more boring church and rigid rules and control for the rest of my life terrified me even if at the time I couldn't put all of that into words and it sounded so miserable. I only had to look at my adult family members to see how miserable they were and it scared me to death.
I realize that must sound strange as Mormonism is all about "forever families", but the severity of the judgement that comes with that is so poingnant that it "broke" us. To this day we are severed. Mom never grew up, dad just sat with his "authority" and never engaged in anything and us kids were expected to magically build our lives with no money, guidence etc. I realize millions of kids have to do this, but not everyone lives under the premise that their families are much more loving and special than "yours". I know it's pathetic, but when I see families so close even after 40 years, it hurts to know what I'm missing out on.
Have you ever felt this way?