Posted by:
judyblue
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Date: July 20, 2011 03:02PM
I only post occasionally, but I'm a major lurker. I have a question for you all. When you first thought about leaving mormonism, did you invest a lot of time and effort into investigating the truth? Or did you just decide to leave, and that was it?
I've seen a lot of posters say they read book after book once doing crept in, trying to decide if it was true or not. I had a completely different experience, and wonder if any of you were more like me.
I spent three years prior to my apostasy studying and working to gain a testimony (because I felt worthless for not being faithfu enough), to no avail. Then one day, after yet another pointless Sunday meeting block, as I was berating myself for YET AGAIN failing to "feel the spirit", a thought occurred to me. Just a simple little thought: "I'm a good person."
It felt so good that I thought it again. "I'm a good person. If there's a heaven, I'm pretty sure I would get to go." Then I wondered what kind of loving god would keep me out of heaven just because I had a hard time believing in all the confusing and contradictory things they told me at church. I wondered what kind of god would send in all the confusing and contradictory things they told me at church. I wondered what kind of god would send some of his children into The Big Test with answer guides and some without. I wondered what kind of god would create a single path to salvation, and yet at the same time create a world full of different people and cultures and experiences.
Then I thought, "If god is who the mormon church says he is, I want nothing to do with him." So I picked up my Bible to see what it had to say about god, and in less then 30 verses I was out. I decided right then and there that I didn't think the church was true, and didn't care if it was. I knew I would rather spend eternity in the telestial kingdom with my principles than in the CK with a god I couldn't respect.
In ten minutes I went from hating myself for not being a good enough mormon to being out, and never looking back. It was another six months or so before I found this site, and read some of the fascinating evidences against mormonism (DNA, BoA, etc).
How many other people left without needing to know verifiable reasons it was false? I'm not trying to sound boastful in any way - in fact, I sometimes think I did it all wrong, and that I should have looked more closely into it before making such a huge decision. What I did was completely uncharacteristic for me.
But I'd love to hear if anyone else had an exit similar to mine. Or, your thought process if you did study your way out - at what point did the warm fuzzy feelings stop mattering as much as the true things you learned about the church?