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Date: July 21, 2011 03:05PM
One of my few mo friends left on FB is, wait for it, anti gay! I have lost patience with this person and am ready to hit her with links and rock solid logic. Anything you guys have to offer I am ready to lay onto her. Here is the thread (the last post pissed me off the worst.):
HER:
AHHHH< sorry I am coming to this 'discussion' so late, but I would LOVE to add my point of view. Before Prop 8 was passed in Callifornia I was apapthetic to the whole gay marriage debate at all. True my religious beliefs have shaped my attitude regarding the life style but I have always been a live and let live kind of person. If I had lived in California, I doubt that I would have supported the pettition at all. What you do on your time is your business, as long as you are not trying to indoctrinate my kids, that's my job. But after, especially when I saw Whoopi Goldberg leading a protest outside the Holy Temple in Manhattan (cool temple by the way, was given a tour by Steve Young's parents...cool) was my ire raised so I did my research. I found out that there were already laws on the books in California that gave gay couples ALL the RIGHTS and RESPONSIBILITIES of straight married couples. I read and read and read. California being the liberal bastian that it is had done a good job of making sure that their gay citzens were afforded ALL the RIGHTS and (I loved this part) RESPNSIBILITIES of marriage. They went over inheritance, children and visitiing rights right there in the law. So what was the fight about??? The WORD 'Marriage'? Could it be? I read an article about how maybe, given a Saul type decision, we should all abandon the word marriage for all people!! Interesting, I thought and it means absollutely nothing to me. No label was put on my union was going to change its significance to me, so why it is so important to others, remember, in California it is NOT about RIGHTS and RESPONSIBILITIES!! I don't care about indoctrination in the school sysytem really, heck it already happens here in PA and least with safe sex, despite the fact that I teach abstinece before marriage in the home. I have enough confidence in the ability to teach correct priniciples in the home, and with the power of the Holy Spirit, have my children have the ability to discern truth from untruth. So what is it that bothered me so, what what what.
It was the "intentional" consequences. The fight for equal rights for the homosexual community is a zero-sum game. In order for one side, the homosexual community, to "win", the other side, Christians, have to lose. Families are being refused the right to foster children based on their Christian beliefs. Catholic Charities shut down in Massachusettes becasue they will not adopt out to gay parents, and how long before churches are ordered to perform gay marriages on the basis of fair and equal treatment? The more accepted the homosexual lifestyle becomes, through litigation, the more in danger, those of us who disagree with the lifestyle ae, the more we stand to lose. Our belief, and a common sense one at that, that said lifestyle is unnatural and immoral will become a crime and punishable by some 'hate thought' legislation. It is more important to me how you treat me than what you think about me, and I would never, although I disagree with your choices, treat you badly, unless of course you were trying to mess with one of my kids, then the gloes come off, just ask my neighbor!
ME:
So what, in your mind, is this dreaded 'homosexual lifestyle'. The fact is, homosexuality is inborn and by simply making the very human choice to have a romantic and committed relationship to the person of their choice they are some how living a 'wicked' lifestyle and somehow that costs religion something? How does that even follow? Would you say that about Hermaphrodites? Who should they 'marry'? Most religions have a very narrow (and somewhat medieval) view of human sexuality which is not and has never been an either/or, black/white situation. Religion has had quite the hayday in this country and gotten very comfortable strong arming the 'free' citizens of this country into abiding by its idea of morality. If an organisation is a tax exempt charity then it has certain obligations that go with that status. Churches that want to 'play favorites' should lose their status and even be shut down if they use that status to enforce their own misplaced ideologies. I be the CC helped non-catholics and single parents with adoptions, but no gay couples? What would you think of a 'charitable' tax exempt org not allowing interracial couples to adopt? What, exactly, do christians lose by letting 2 (unrelated) consenting adults have the title of marriage?
As far as churches being forced to marry gays: In many parts of Europe, people have to have a civil wedding before going to the religious ceremony of their choice. In the countries where gay marriage has been legal I haven't seen any case where a particular church was forced to marry someone they didn't want too. So riddle me this: In a country where church and state are (supposed to be) separate, is marriage a secular institution, or a religious institution? Can you have a secular wedding and not a religious one (even with a religious wedding, you still have to get a licences from the state, but no equivalent permission from a religion)? If it is a primarily secular institution then there is no legal reasons to exclude gays from marriage, and religion HAS NOTHING TO LOSE. Christians need to get it thru their thick skulls that they do NOT own this country, it is NOT a christian nation, and their own twisted idea of right and wrong means squat when it comes to SECULAR institutions.
I just remembered this: Did you know that the school systems in which abstinence only education is taught that the rate of abortion and STDS is more than twice than in schools where safe sex and BC is taught? Abstinence only ed has been an abysmal failure in the few places daffy enough to try and implement it. Anyone who thinks that just telling kids to not have sex and then giving them nothing further in the way of 'but if you decide to, here is the FYI' is deluding themselves. I personally would like my kids to finish their HS education before becoming sexually active (b/c honestly, my adult kids sex life is none of my damn business, including if they want to wait for marriage or not. Personally, I haven't seen what advantage there is to being a virgin on ones wedding night, while I have seen many cases where it was a distinct disadvantage.) BUT, given that the human mind and body have been primed over millions of years to have sex and reproduce, I am realistic that the 'no sex before marriage' doesn't happen in 9 out of 10 people (mormons included) and want my kids to understand everything about how to keep safe AND enjoy all that nature has given them when their time is right. Religions obsession with peoples sex lives is controlling and barbaric and causes most of the aberrations that get innocent people hurt by putting shame, secrecy, and self-loathing into something that should be beautiful and empowering. There is an interesting study (I'll send you the link when I find it) showing a clear and disturbing correlation between countries with high religiosity (Abrahamic religions who have the most severe religious taboos on sex) and rates of sexual violence and child sex crimes. The more religiously repressive the countries/cultures were, the higher the rates of sexual crimes against women and children, violent crime in general, human trafficking, child porn, etc. The Catholic Church's scandal, and the issues that have gone on in the Boy Scouts are not the exception, but the rule. And as far as the Catholic church goes, any religion that tells its followers in an AIDS ravished country that the use of condoms will endanger their immortal soul is not only evil, but malevolent and I would not shed a tear if every one of their 'charities' around the world were shut down as I doubt any amount of good they could/have ever do/done could offset all the blood and lost innocence on their hands.
Her:
Surprise, surprise surprise, your statistics and my statistics about abstinence only education differ! How could that be? And quite personally I am not interested in debating the right or wrongness of the homosexual lifestyle, nothing I can say will ever convince you that I am right, and vice versa, But I will say this, there is NO evidence, NONE that states that homosexuality is inborn, in fact until the late 80's it was classified in the DSM as a mental disoder and only removed by great pressure from the homosexual lobby. One of the leading psychologists of the time has gone on record as saying that he believes it was a mistake to have removed it at all. So, if you are in fact 'born that way' which I doubt, then it is a biological disorder that, for all we know, may be treatable. My point is that the batle is a zero-sum game. Those of us who have a disagreement, whether based on religion or pure biology, will be looked at as, and are already looked at as bigots for our difference of opnion. It doesn't matter how decent we are to people of any belief or opnion, the homosexual debate is like the borg, resistance is futile, assimilate(accept us as equal) or die(be forever outcast in society as bigots). NOT that I care what any one thinks about me, the problem comes when, as I said before, big brother starts to pass hate thought legislation, and don't bother telling me it wont happen!!