Posted by:
SusieQ#1
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Date: August 01, 2011 11:52AM
were disrespectful of your mother's boundaries about making negative (snide, rude, denigrating, name calling, pejoratives, etc.) comments about the LDS Church. What would be the result?
How would it impact your relationship with your mother? Would she be angry, disgusted with you, lecture you? Or give you the silent treatment?
Would she continue to allow you to stay in her home when you needed it? Would she feel rejected and betrayed?
I am of the opinion that when we hold negative, hateful, angry, emotions about the Mormon church and it's members (or any other topic), including our loved ones, and friends, when we are around them, they can sense it, immediately. They know it, feel it, and most likely feel rejected, and betrayed.
I'm a supporter of congenial relationships. Generally, we need and want our family and friends, at least some of them. And they need and want us.
It's an awakening to find out there are no fantasy parents, siblings, spouses, children! :-) We get what we get! Often when they are gone, we realize what we were missing by rejecting them, and being rude and negative and hateful toward others.
Personally, I am of the opinion, also, that holding onto anger, rage, hate, and any other kind of negative emotion is harmful -- to us! It's self sabotage. All we need to do is to be kind to one another and stop trying to change them and make them fit what we want. We get people: As-Is. Just like we are!