There's little else in this world that bothers me more than when I pay someone a compliment (straight guys, mostly) and they automatically go on the defense and assume I'm trying to make a pass at them. Really? Get the fuck over yourself. Just because you happen to have a penis doesn't mean I automatically want to fuck you.

I think I'm just going to start being a mean insulting bitch to everyone.

Blurgh.

I won't read anything into it, and I'm pretty damned straight.

Thing is, this incident I'm bitching about wasn't even me flirting, like AT ALL. I just paid the guy a compliment. That's it. It was as innocuous as if I had told him I liked his shirt and he made it a point to tell me he wasn't into guys.

When women I'm not interested in compliment my clothes I don't make the assumption they want me to bone them. Kinda makes you wonder if this guy might not have some latent desires, doesn't it? Otherwise, why would it be forefront in his thoughts?



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"he made it a point to tell me he wasn't into guys"

THe automatic thougth to that statement usually is - Get over yourself.

The traditional response is , Good! more for me!

Whoa that is mighty presumptuous of that guy! How lame.

S**t! Really? Oh. How embarrassing!

GLAJ, perhaps he secretly lusts after you?

Tell him that is okay because you find him completely sexually unappealing anyway. You just like his shirt.

You know that some of those innocent compliments of yours have gone to guys who really needed them!

I consider myself a pretty nice guy. Call me crazy but I enjoy receiving compliments. Helps with my chronic self esteem issues. I figure, "Hey! I'm going to try and make someone else's day just a little bit better!" but almost every single time I do that, I end up completely regretting it. I'm going to continue to compliment my friends, but as for anyone else- I'm kind of done.

Well, consider it a compliment from me that you made me feel better.

To understand the reasoning you have to remember that "bros" would never compliment a girl on her clothes or hair or something unless they were trying to get laid. Thus, when you compliment a bro, said bro just sees a fellow dude and assumes you're sending out the bro mating call. Being a bro he feels the need to define his questionable heterosexuality by informing you that he's not gay, and then burning the shirt when he gets home (or at least tearing the sleeves off).

instead of the macho pig he wants to be. You humiliated him in his weird world view.

Communication between members of the same species shouldn't be so difficult.

I would understand if I had said, "Hey. Nice shirt. I would like to fondle your genitals."

A fairly homophobic bar patron related to me that he didn't see what the problem with kicking a gay man's ass was if the gay man had the nerve to make a pass at him. I looked him square in the eye and retorted, "So that means the next time some jackass like you makes a move on me, I get to cut off your genitals and beat you to death right?!? Fair is fair afterall."

He was a little speachless. He probably didn't get my point, but maybe he'll think twice about his stupid prejudices.

I'm feeling totally rejected but I don't know if it's justified.

Stunted



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Hey Stunted, you have really sexy syntax.

Feel better? I can't compliment your appearance via message board. Well, I could, but it would be disingenuous.

I've always had a syntax deficiency and I've been working to improve for several months now. Thanks for noticing!

I actually get compliments all day long about how physically perfect and appealing I am so it's refreshing to get complimented on something else for a change.....(picture Jabba the Hut on a bad day)

Stunted

The uncertainty outside of the morg is such that maybe not everybody is aware they have a penis? Maybe there's just a 50% (ca.) chance of it? ;-)

So - when's the friday drink O/T thread 'kicking' in?

So..... who's YOU fu**ing tonight?

"Okay, just gimme the shirt, and I'll leave you alone."

Nah, actually you should say something like, "Oh, GAWD, I wouldn't bang you if you were the last man on Earth. Get OVER yourself, Pal."

Make sure you have a look on your face like there's something NASTY TASTING in your mouth.

I'm sure I'll think of other snazzy comeback lines for the rest of the day!

~VOW

You should have said, "Oh you thought...." (and laugh and keep laughing like it's so damn funny) "you thought I was actually hitting on you?! Hahahahahahhahaha!" Just maybe he would have felt like an ass.

GLA - seriously, that happens to me too. Some guys are just too wound up and if you smile at them, talk to them, compliment them they just assume you are after them. Really, I don't know where they buy their egos but it must be at the buy-one, get-one-free ego shop because what NERVE for a man to assume I want him just because I was nice and friendly. Arrogant. It's not you GLA, some guys just have problems.