Posted by:
forestpal
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Date: September 15, 2011 11:31PM
I said something stupid once--and never have made any comment about people's children's appearance, positive or negative.
I was new in our ward, and was visiting teaching, when the woman's daughter came into the room, with some other girls her age. I said, "I don't have to guess which one is your daughter--she looks exactly like your husband!" She does, and her father is a very handsome man.
But, I didn't know the gossip. The woman and her husband had had an affair, when he was the bishop of her ward, when they were both married to somebody else. After a few years, the woman and the bishop were discovered, there was a big scandal, both were excommunicated, they married each other, and started a new life in my new ward. The girl was brought up to be the daughter of the first husband, born in wedlock, BIC, and all this was supposed to be a secret.
A friend of mine was in the Peace Corps on a tiny island in Polynesia. She came home pregnant, but engaged, and the two had a Mormon-type shotgun wedding under the basketball hoop. Her father was the Stake President. Years later, I saw her and her three children at a reunion picnic. It was one of my friends who blabbed-off her mouth, this time: Your younger children are so very blonde! Where did your oldest get his dark skin and kinky hair?" Turns out, our little friend had been raped in a village in Polynesia, and her boyfriend had stepped up to marry her.
Silence is golden!
My favorite reply to rude and random questions is, "I can't believe you asked/said that." Then I turn away, or change the subject.