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Date: September 28, 2011 05:14AM
It even started in the MTC. I was clean, obedient going into the MTC, I was more dedicated than the others, doing more, learning more, etc. I did everything precisely as I'd been instructed and then some. But the other elders (almost simultaneously) raved about the missionary spirit that was sweeping the lot of them. I thought Great! but this spirit never swept me up too. I'd felt what we considered the spirit many times before the mission, so I basically knew what to expect.
But I felt nothing, plain emptiness. I found it very, very strange and felt like something was seriously wrong. I knew absolutely that it wasn't me not being valiant enough, that was not an issue. I didn't consciously say it to myself at the time, but on an emotional level I knew there was something wrong with the Mormon system itself. I was bothered by the things taught in the MTC. A few memorized scrips and a whole lot of blubbering about feelings, even straight up fibbing. I was even chastised for being too much of a "teacher."
This continued in the mission field. As of day 1 I did not feel like these people needed my religion at all. I loved talking to people, even tracting since it made for interesting experiences. But I hated doing the sit down "discussions" and I REALLY hated baptizing people. It just felt sick. I became emotionally numb to the religion and began taking it lightly.
I heard lots of criticism of my church, like "You're not Christian, you believe you can work your way into heaven and you believe Jesus and Satan were brothers!" So what? I thought. Yes, of course we believe in a different Christ, that's what we're here to tell you.
But then I encountered the Book of Abraham problem. I can't remember how or why I knew the problem held water, but that was the first time I consciously said to myself that there was some shamelessly bogus stuff. I thought something like "I knew it, Brother Joseph was flying by the seat of his pants all along."
I shelved that for a while and enjoyed the companions, the members and their often wonderful dinners, and especially the perspectives of the "Gentiles" in Oregon.
But then after being out for about 15 months, there was a televised priesthood portion of GC. ELder Ballard was talking to the missionaries directly. He said "remember elders when you get home, you are released from your mission, not released from the church." Bingo!!! I considered myself hereby released from any allegiance to their authority, and fully intended to abandon the church upon arriving home. He not only gave precedent that there were in fact RM's who were "releasing themselves," but showed himself to be somewhat of a tyrant by being so presumptuous as to tell me what to do with my life. It was a very controlling statement and it was then that I decided enough was enough.
After getting home I still attended, since I wanted to milk the RM status and snag a babe to wed. I deserved it, I gave them two dedicated years and significant preparation time before then. I did what I wanted to otherwise: party, keep my money, even taught Sunday School high. It was a fun time since I was guilt-free. I was having my cake and eating it too.
After being with my (now) wife for some time, we both abandoned the religion. It wasn't until it became necessary to "come out" to family that I discovered how deep the rabbit hole went. They treated me so horribly, crossed so many boundaries, that I had to seek out other post-mormons online to see their ideas on how to handle it. Having so much information at my disposal I realized that TSCC was not only a bad fit for me, but a great evil that had ensnared most of the people I cared about. I realized this with equal parts humor, sadness and fascination that has not diminished over the eight or so years since absconding.
Sorry for the length. HAve a good week everyone!