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Raptor Jesus
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Date: October 24, 2011 09:03PM
http://exmormon.org/phorum/read.php?2,326515,326515#msg-326515I don't have a huge pteradon in this fight, but there was something that caught my eye.
Unbeliever42 doesn't like that polygamy is often attached to abuse, and used his own experience as proof.
Cheryl thinks that polygamy has the potential for abuse and possibly has experience for that.
I took exception that Unbeliever42 gets to use his experience as proof but Cheryl doesn't.
He then responded that he does get to use his experience as valid and Cheryl doesn't.
And he also stated that "She is insisting that any more-than-two-adults relationship has "too much potential for abuse" and that's a ridiculous statement any way you slice it (let me show you all the monogamous abusive relationships that I've seen, witnessed, and been through)."
That "that's a ridiculous statement any way you slice it" caught my eye and made my tummy hurt.
Unbeliever42, institutionalized, religious polygamy attached to abuse has been WELL documented.
Your poly amorous relationship may work and may not be abusive, but if you don't think that polygamy comes with abuse, you are making an incredibly naive claim.
Cheryl isn't claiming that ALL polygamous relationships WILL lead to abuse, but historically speaking, the two have gone hand in hand.
I haven't decided whether or not I think it should be legalized, but if you want those rights you unfortunately have a very long and rough battle because you and your relationship will HAVE to be scrutinized. Your relationship has historically speaking been in the same class as Warren Jeff's.
You may take exception to that, but it's the truth. You practice polygamy, and so does he. You may not have the same kind of educational, emotional, sexual, physical, and "spiritual" abuse in your relationships, but you WILL HAVE to show HOW yours is different if you want the voting public to take you seriously.
And trying to sweep the abuses of other polygamous relationships under the rug isn't going to help. You will have to actually confront them.
Like it or not. Right or wrong. Homosexual marriage actually gained traction when they were able to confront the claims that the public had against them and they were able to demonstrate that they made loving couples, raised well adjusted children, and contributed to society.
The courts demonstrated that effectively.
Your battle is going to be harder simply because we have polygamous communities. And their polygamy does NOT hold up well under scrutiny.