Posted by:
mossface
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Date: November 11, 2011 06:52AM
I'm going to offer a dissenting opinion and recommend that you go, regardless of whether he's going to talk religion or not. Of course, I know nothing about the particulars of your relationship, so this very well may be bad advice, but it's what I would do in my own situation.
For me, it comes down to the cost of maintaining a relationship with my family. My father, bless his heart, usually tries to sneak in a religious topic every time I visit him. I know him. I know he loves me, and I know where he's coming from. I also get the feeling that he's bewildered by my leaving the church, and hurt by it, and trying to deal with it as best he's able. I imagine he feels like he has to make an attempt to bring me back to the iron rod.
Anyway, so all that said, I love my dad and want as good a relationship with him as possible. For me, that means at least three things; accepting him on his terms, not avoiding him, and letting the occasional sermon roll off my back.
Ultimately, you have very little power to sway your brother's opinion about the church or about you leaving it. What you DO have within your power is to try to have a good relationship with him.
Life is short, and if you no longer believe in an afterlife (like me), this is all we get. There's a damn good chance this lifetime is the only time you'll ever have with your brother. I say take the opportunities presented to have a good relationship, and if that means sucking up a few sermons (or a lot), it's not the end of the world.
Anyway, I'm not in your position, I don't understand the dynamics between yourself and your brother, and I'm just another stranger on the internet. So feel free to disregard everything I've said.
Still, he's family.