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Date: November 21, 2011 11:13PM
I want to make it clear I am not the poster most are thinking of. Not that our situation doesn't have similarities. My ex moved back in because I am stupid andlet him, and he still pays the bills, or at least he claims to.
Cobra would be great, but it would cost 800 a month, which comes out of money that would be split between us. My ex makes 36000 a year, that's it. Not enough for two households. It would only cost him 80 a month to keep me on his insurance until I can get covered another way.
I stayed with him for 23 years, the last 3 him figuring out he was gay. I should have left him, I know that, but I took the marriage commitment seriously, and we were trying to wait it out till our kid(s) got out of the house, but that didn't work.
I love him, always will, but am terrified. I may not be able to work after I graduate, and even if I can, not make enough to afford insurance. I am looking at medicaid, which I don't want to do, but I have on-going expenses, surgery, etc, as part of my illness that are routine.
I am angry because he has lied to me and made so many promises over the years and he told me he would always take care of me in that way. He has not honored the marriage, so what does it matter if he is divorced? I am trying to get him to see that a legal separation gives him what he wants (control-over himself and his life) and keeps me with insurance, though not enough to live on.
It's just scary. He is mean to the kids, and the second he is abusive I will kick him out. Till then I don't have a leg to stand on legally.
I was just frustrated when I posted. I have an STD from him. I have to be tested for AIDS. It's not his fault he is gay, I kknow that and I support him. We were getting along great two months ago......