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tmtinfw
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Date: November 22, 2011 11:53AM
It’s a cool, foggy morning here in North Texas, and since I have the week off and a few minutes to sit and read RFM I thought I might share a few ideas I’ve been thinking about lately.
Cheryl’s post about Mormon bullies caused me to reflect a bit about my own experience with bullies at church, and why I allowed myself to be put in those situations.
I sometimes think that my years in the church weren’t really my own. Being born and raised in the church I was thoroughly indoctrinated, even though at some level I was always skeptical and never fully invested. Despite my ambivalence I always did what I was told if only for the sake of appearance. I seemed to obey in a sort of emotion-less way--almost robotic. I was bullied into doing things that I knew weren’t right so many times; i.e. visiting inactives without calling, accepting callings, stating that I “knew” things were true when in fact I had no idea, etc.
It’s been about 5 years or so since I’ve been to church, and over that time I’ve developed friendships and relationships with many people who have no connection to the church. When I began making these connections, I realized that I had a limited ability to make informed choices for myself and act like an adult--almost as if I was emotionally immature, if that makes any sense. As time away from the church has passed, I feel like I’m finally going through the stages of normal life development and finding out who I really am. Maybe that sounds corny or touchy-feely, but at the ripe old age of fifty I’m feeling like my life is finally my own.
Does anyone else get a sense of what I’m talking about? Does life in TSCC delay normal adult social development? I’d like to hear your thoughts.