Posted by:
Endofdays
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Date: December 20, 2011 10:13AM
Okay, hi everyone, I've posted a few times on here and generally lurked for the last few years.
I'm am officially still a member of the COJOLDS, the only member in my family I converted aged 18. My fiance's mom is also LDS, she converted 10 years or more before I met her and I converted before meeting my fiance or her, I in fact met him at work 8 years ago.
Anyhow, my fiance is best described as agnostic unless golf can be classed as a religion - he is in fact just in the final weeks of being Captain at his club - between his golf, family issues (disabilities) and life getting in the way, we have yet to get married, but it is our intention to one day in the future.
For various reasons, principally because of the influence of the church we did not live together up until we discovered we were expecting a baby (who was born one month ago). I've not been at church for almost a year (that's a whole other story in itself), suddenly though the RS pres has been in touch etc.
It lead me to think and consider my position even more and in reading various articles (including Pres Paternoster's blog) I am lead to believe that whilst being a single LDS mom (whether active or not) isn't liked but is tolerated, the fact that I actually have a partner to love and support me and my son is straight down the line an excommunicable offence.
Is this the case? I don't want to resign due to the family link with my partner's mom, but at the same time I do not want to be dragged before a bishop's court and told my choices in raising my son rather than givng him up to either the government or lds family services is wholly immoral. Does anyone have any experience of this? Will they simply leave me 'on the books' provided I make no contact with them or will they take an active interest and commence 'Court of Love' proceedings?
Your thoughts would be most welcome!
Ax