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anagrammy
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Date: January 29, 2012 10:30AM
I have nine children. Parenthood is a lot like being in the military. It wasn't what you thought it would be and it strengthens some while driving others crazy. There is no way out of it but through it once they have arrived, so there's character-building. You have to grow up and experience life larger than just doing what you choose to do.
It doesn't stop when they are eighteen, by the way, and you are blamed for their problems but not given credit for their strengths. This is a great lesson in life.
Children allow you to see the world through the eyes of innocence and wonder. You can't get that from going on cruises or having a BMW.
Looking at it objectively pros/cons, having more people you love increases your happiness and your sadness because you hurt when they hurt, you rejoice with them, etc. In my old age now, I live in a senior residents with children constantly visiting, which makes me the envy of everyone hear. "ANOTHER daughter? My, my, you certainly have a full life."
If you believe our life is here on earth, then make the most of it experience-wise. Educate yourself, travel, fall in love, have children, live fully while respecting others. And replace yourself in the world because it needs more people like you.
BTW, they won't be like you and you will love them anyway. This is the most curious thing of all.
Yesterday I was driving home from one of my daughter's house feeling such deep contentment. All my high school friends I was close too are dead, my extended family is dead or MIA, my marriages all failed. Yet I still can walk to the store with someone who says, "You're limping. Why are you limping?" Just having someone who notices, who cares, someone to love, makes life worth living. Don't forget, someday your spouse will die. Or you will, leaving him with...who?
My son was childless until 40. His two daughters are the light of his life. He quit some bad habits to be a better dad- habits that would have killed him over time. Wouldn't do it for himself, but wants to be here for the girls. He says it strengthened his partnership with their mother because it gave them a huge interest in common.
I say go for it. Life is for the living.
And, OMG, did I mention grandchildren? There is no better antidote for grumpiness and the happiness they bring--grandkids just light up your life. I spend three fun days selecting books and goodies to take to my grandchildren and the conversations we have are hilarious. My grandaughter asked me last time, "Grandma Kathy, are you everyone's mother?"
Anagrammy