Posted by:
lostbagle
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Date: April 03, 2012 02:58AM
I seen this comment a few times in some of the threads here. Also, when my husband and I were going through some things just a few months ago as he didn't believe, I was finding things out about the Mormon religion after being in it for 20 years. We were also having some marital problems, he had contacted his brother for advice.
His brother instead of giving advice goes on bashing me. One of the things that were included in this was about religion and how he just "knew" the way that I was and the way that I thought even though I had never once had a personal or deep conversation with him in the 13 years that I have been with my husband.
He claimed that I was delusional, wearing special underwear, paying 10% that I think Im golden. Bible says to pop out as many children as I can and thats what I am doing, so he says. He claimed I was lazy and never did anything to provide for my children.
My husband and I decided when we had our first child that I would stay home with them. I was definitely immature and didn't realize the capacity for more growth that I could have had for myself and spouse had we waited to have children. But having them, "popping" them out, never occured to me like that. I love children, and it wasn't one after another, though much closer than bil's liking. We have four children.
One thing that bil never cared to learn about me, I was born in to a family of four. When I was ten years old my siblings and myself were taken from our home due to my fathers abuse inflicted on one of us. After moving around through extended family and foster homes, my brothers were adopted out of state. I never got to grow up with my brothers and wanted to raise children and have a family like the one that was taken away from me. It turned out that I did.
Bil's ignorance and self righteousness really bother me. I get that he has a deep hatred for the lds religion and those that are in it. It really hurts more than anything that he has ASSumed so much about me. ASSumed that I came from a TBM family, when I did not. (though I did have a relative killed at Hauns Mill and pioneer heritage, my extended family and parents were not active or practicing lds. Though bil never cared to know any of this either) He ASSumed that I was popping out children because of the doctrine of the church, when I was not. The fault that lies with me is my immaturity that I had in choosing to have my first child so young.
The things that bil said are still fresh and reading others comments on here open those wounds. I just wanted to let it out there that not everyone has multiple children to follow the crowd
Edited 1 time(s). Last edit at 04/03/2012 03:14AM by lostbagle.