Posted by:
rosemary
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Date: May 01, 2012 09:32PM
My son is turning 8 next week. Fortunately, no one is expecting him to get baptized, so that's good. However, he emphatically wants a "family party", which is sad because we have entirely cut out some of their cousins in the past few years (not because of the innocent little sweeties, but because I can't keep subjecting myself to my brothers' cruelties.) and now my kids have no cousins on my family side. Which means they have no cousins.
I've explained why this is so to my boys and they understand that those cousins won't be coming (ever), but my son wants to have both my parents and my youngest sister and brother to come for his birthday party.
Not to recap an unpleasant story unnecesarily, but last October my parents kicked out my 20 year old sister for no reason. She was depressed and questioning her testimony, and to my parents that is unforgivable. So My husband and I took her in without asking for anything in return. We were generous with both our possessions and our unconditional love, and she repaid us by stabbing us in the back. She bad-mouthed us to one of my evil-spirited brothers who called CPS to have us investigated as unfit parents. The charges were dismissed as simply vindictive, but it all sent me into a horrible bout of anxiety and depression, and put a kink in our adoption process for our third child.
Now, my little sis became sick over what happened; she never intended or expected it to happen. And while I am not angry at her, my husband and both feel utterly betrayed.
But my youngest son has no idea of what his beloved aunt did and I can't break his heart telling him at this point.
How can we invite her back into our home? This will be the first time I will have seen my father since the "fit hit the shan" and that will be anxiety-causing enough, but should I just invite my sis and hope that I don't have to talk to her too much? Can I pull off being friendly without being her friend?
My husband doesn't want to have anything to do with any of my family, but is supportive of however much I choose to to involve them. He will be civil no matter what I choose, which means I have to make an impossible decision by myself.