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Date: March 18, 2011 06:54AM
I'd like to apologize to the board for posting, since it's 6AM, I've been up all night, and I can never add my 2 cents without making it into an essay. I'm sorry for inflicting my brain vomit upon yall.
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"You have to learn to love housework. I do!"
In my mind, that could potentially also translate to, "Let's put a positive spin on a set of chores that is rather irritating." Since I don't personally know your fiance, I would have no way of knowing for sure if that little gem was motivated by honest to god chauvinism or not.
"It bothers me that you don't see the joy of homemaking."
On the one hand, I've noticed that men gain a sense of well-being from being nurtured in little ways by the women in their lives. Personally, if a sandwich is going to perk a guy up after a bad day, I don't have a problem with breaking out the mayo. And I find it kind of heart-warming to see the "Dawwww, thank you!" expressions on a man's face when he's given some home cooking.
On the other hand, it's not up to him as to whether you're a homemaker or not. If you want to be, cool. It's your decision and it should be respected by men and women alike. The same goes for if you *don't* want to be a homemaker. He doesn't have the right to attempt a case of the guilties.
"We shouldn't say, 'I am an actor' or 'I am a writer.' We should say 'I am a parent who, when my children are taken care of, finds time to write.'"
It's a nice sentiment, if idealistic, but people take on many roles in their lifetimes. People's lives change in beautiful and amazing ways when they become parents, but they rarely stop being the people they were before. Hugh Jackman, for instance, is Super-Dad. But he's also an actor. He's a husband. Presumably, he also has extended family, so he's a friend. He is all those things at once and draws on each as needed. Who we are is pretty malleable and doesn't need to be defined strictly by any one thing (this is not to diminish the importance of parents in any way).
"I promised I would give everything I had to the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-Day Saints. (not God? or Jesus?) No. It's the same thing."
I'd say I have no words...but if you're still reading this post, you know that's not true!
Aside from the obvious fallacy inherent in basically stating that a religion is the same as a deity, all kinds of theories are springing to mind. Does this mean that TSCC is worshiped by its members instead of a higher power? (Cynics such as myself would say yes.) If one does worship a religion (or say, a temple), in place of an actual deity, does that count as having "false gods?"
I know a lot of people are telling you to run for the hills here. If his religion takes precedence in his life over you and your life together, then you may have to make a hard choice. But really--I don't know you, I don't know him, and you're probably with him for a reason. I hope that whatever happens, it turns out well for the both of you.