Posted by:
motherfreaker
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Date: June 04, 2012 09:32PM
My wife, kids, and I resigned from the Cult in 2003. I am the oldest of 8 siblings, a BIC RM, MIT, EQP, etc, etc., and my last calling was Stake Mission President. I understand the missionary program, how the missionaries prey on the weak and unfortunate, and I have worked with our Stake's YM, YW, and other leaders in reactivating and converting youth in my earlier days. I am a salesman by career having reached the top 10% in my profession and have trained hundreds of my peers in basic and advanced sales techniques. I see the church's missionary program as nothing other than a free sales force where your employees pay the firm for the opportunity to sell the firm's defective product to an educated and hostile target market.
My son, a recent HS graduate, has a non-member girlfriend who lives across the country. They see each other a few times a year, the last being 3 weeks ago when he attended her Senior Prom. My sister, who lives in the same city, has gone out of her way to fellowship and be friends with the girlfriend. My sister, in her shallow life, normally would have nothing to do with the girlfriend, but since my son is "dating" her I can see the BRT/Commitment Pattern in full force with the girlfriend.
My sister has a daughter a year younger than the girlfriend and the daughter has been putting the pressure on the girlfriend to attend YW activities, come over for dinner on Sundays, and most recently invited her to a baptism for a kid in the Ward. The girlfriend, trying to be nice, always accepts the invitations as she really likes my son and wants to get in good with the family. After the baptism, my sister remarked to the girlfriend, "You know, you are Mormon and just don't know it. You would make a great Mormon." The girlfriend was polite but didn't have a reply.
When my son was back for prom they visited my sister for an afternoon. During the visit the missionaries showed up with, "We were just in the area and thought we'd stop by." My sister invited them in and before long they were in the middle of a missionary discussion. My son, who is well mannered and polite, answered the questions while his girlfriend listened. My sister led most of the discussion and by the time the missionaries were finished they had asked my son and his girlfriend if they would consider getting baptized. My son, knowing our history, told them that he was not interested. My sister upped the ante by telling them that since they were in love, and of legal age, that they should just get married and get baptized at the same time and that she would help support them as they tried to find work and start their lives together. My son declined and told her that he wants to get an education and start a career before he gets married. She said that there was no reason that he couldn't get married, go to college, and start a career at the same time. She brought up my wife and I who were married when my wife was 18 and I was 21. My son again told her no and she then asked the girlfriend what she thought.
The girlfriend said that she wasn't ready to get married either. My sister said that at the least they should get baptized together before he left to return home so they would have something to build on as they grew in their relationship.
They both said NO and she said that she knows that eventually they will get baptized and married in the temple someday.
My son is completely against anything LDS but the girlfriend likes the attention she gets from the YM and YM in the Ward. She likes the dances, girls camp, activities, etc., and doesn't see what the big deal is and one church is as good as another.
He is flying back to visit again in July and I want to set my sister straight before he arrives. One part of me says that he's 18 and can make his own decisions while another part of me says that he's my son and I'll fight to the bitter end before he darkens another meetinghouse door.
So how do I handle this? What would you do if you were in my situation?